So I noticed that in the ‘Spoilers Discussion,’ we’ve been talking a lot about Cary and Kalinda as a potential couple… and yet there’s no actual topic about them. So I figured… why not make one and air out our opinions on them?
In any case, I'm with a lot of people in being over a possible Cary/Kalinda relationship. The actors have fabulous chemistry together (and it's awesome seeing a handsome WASPy dude like Cary go starry-eyed over an older WOC like Kalinda) but the writing has been abysmal for them over the course of the last few seasons. They're stuck in a serious relationship rut where every time Cary tries to get closer, she eventually draws him in just a little before rebuffing him. Oh, they share sexy conversations in the mean-time (which I do enjoy, since Matt Czuchry and Archie Panjabi do have ridiculously good chemistry) and do favors for one another in the mean-time… but mostly, Cary is in this weird masochistic want-and-get-rejected pattern with Kalinda that pretty much hasn’t altered since Season 1.
And the one time they actually do hook up… the show (and Kalinda) brushes it off and it doesn’t get revisited until the ridiculous health-care plot-line comes back and Kalinda rejects Cary for actually sensibly exploring his options when she makes outrageous demands from the new firm. Which just frustrates me even more, as it seems like an easy way to separate those two right when they might actually make some headway in their relationship. (And Kalinda might actually get some interesting character development!)
Cary and Kalinda might be fun to watch together but watching a 4-years-in-the-making relationship fizzle out like this just made me more frustrated than ever. And worse, it made both of these characters look pathetic. By the end of season 4, Cary looks like a guy who’s still hung over a woman who demands impossible things of him and throws hissy-fits when he denies her… and Kalinda looks like an emotional child angry that she can’t use sex to control him anymore.
Good relationships make both partners look all the better in it. But relationships like the one Cary and Kalinda are in end up making both people look like twerps. And I'm at the point where I'd rather Kalinda go off with her harem and Cary find someone who actually enjoys being with him. He’s so often in the role of the groveling desirer when he’s with Kalinda — I want to see him be the object of desire, for once!