(Having been away when DA Season 3 first aired, I’m just watching it now for the first time.)
I was more excited about Sir Anthony Strallan’s marriage to Edith than any other DA nuptials. So although I was worried that he looked way too worried on the wedding day, his greeting Edith as “my sweet one” at the altar reassured me.
I gasped and then almost screamed when he stopped the ceremony. I gasped every time a further blow was struck, including Lady Grantham’s.
A few hours later, I realized I was still traumatized because when I watched a King of Queens sitcom rerun and it happened to be a flashback to the two stars Doug & Carrie Heffernan’s wedding, the sight of them in tux and gown at the altar just reminded me of poor Edith’s experience there.
My only real reservation beforehand (besides a fear that Sir Anthony had other injuries he hadn’t specified) had been Edith’s comment to him that she didn’t love him in spite of his injury but because of it, and because she wanted to take care of him. But I reasoned she may have meant she loved him more because of it. After all, we know she liked him long before he got injured.
Once the wedding was stopped, I hoped they’d either get back together later, or Edith would find a nice young man, and dear Sir Anthony a sweet older chick.
Afterwards, I thought of a few things. Edith made many comments about being married, not being married, her sisters being married, her being a spinster. I wondered if just wanting to get married had been a major factor in her having wanted to marry Strallan.
The other thing was her exchange with Strallan before the wedding about the Marlboroughs’ pending divorce and Strallan’s admiration of the wife. I see from posts above that this conversation referred to a well-known couple at the time, but in 1920 (before the Duchess of Marlborough’s 1921 second marriage), perhaps Strallan was fantasizing about her, or just thought about other women his age becoming available.
(That reminds me of a Seinfeld sitcom episode, where Jerry and Elaine were “waiting out” a couple’s marriage, so Jerry could date the wife and Elaine the husband as soon as they became single again!)
For that time period, the Crawley sisters are late in getting married and having kids. One is still unmarried, one has just gotten married and one is expecting her first child. When we met them in 1912, it was getting to be late for Mary to marry, I believe. Eight years later, there’s been little progress in that regard for the trio.
I thought it interesting that Vera Bates posted a letter while she was with her friend and neighbor the day before she died. If it was the very letter the friend received, Vera may have been looking to leave behind written proof of her (fake or real) fear of Bates. I also wondered if the “halo” she appeared to have in the rain had something to do with a chemical reaction between poison she’d been handling and the rain. The phosphorous glow posted about above sounds like a possibility.
I think Edith sank her own ship when she told Anthony that she loved him because of his infirmity and she wanted him to be her life's project.
I feared that too. BTW, I don’t remember if, when we first saw Sir Anthony with his injury, he was wearing a sling, though it’s ever-present now.
If nothing else, Anthony has always seemed like a very kind person, particularly very kind to Edith. It didn't seem in character for him to leave her humiliated at the alter like that. At a certain point you just need to go through with it even if you have serious doubts. And standing at the alter is that point!
In today’s world, you can end a marriage in 72 days and be none the worse off for it when the next potential romance comes along. In the past, though, I don’t know: A never-consummated marriage and a never-completed wedding ceremony might be better than a divorce or even an annullment, if one party is convinced the wedding is a terrible idea for the other party and just can’t bring himself to do it to her.
I think he kept agonizing over it for a long time, especially because Edith was so set on marrying him, and it’s hard to break someone’s heart at all, even if you think it’s for their own good. Breaking off the engagement even ahead of time would have broken Edith’s heart. But perhaps at the last minute he realized he just couldn’t let her do this to herself. (That was his first sensible act in months, according to Violet.)
He also made it clear at the altar – loud and clear – that he was ending it because he couldn’t let Edith waste her life on him, and that he believed she would find happiness with someone else.
My candidate as fall guy for Vera's murder is Obrien.
You’re reminding me to look up my suspicions at the time, because I think O’Brien figured in them. This season, Thomas looked meaningfully at O'Brien after he made a crack at the servants' table about Bates being a murderer and Carson told him off.
And I might be in the minority but I just love Daisy.
I do too. Even when she’s being petulant.