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[prmami]

Airs Tuesdays at 9PM on TLC

The Sisterhood captures a candid look into the lives of devout yet fierce preachers' wives. Known as first ladies, these women work to ensure that their families and churches run as smoothly as possible.

As wives of preachers in Atlanta, first ladies are held to high standards. But like everyone else, they experience struggles and triumphs.

The show follows them as they navigate through marital troubles, financial issues, parenting challenges, personality conflicts and even demons from the past.

Let the hot mess begin.

[Brooklynista]

Ok, I think I'm in. I have a bit more room for mindless tv.

Tara reminds me of so many of my southern holy roller relatives. There has to be a way you can carry on a conversation about the weather without being beat in the head with every bible scripture. I would still like to see more of the dynamic with her husband and their families. I can't imagine having both sets of grandparents turn their backs on the kids. Pretty unfortunate.

[Stardancer2001]

Oh my. I have never seen anyone who couldn't read a room like Pastor Brian. He and Tara were married for over ten years and he has no idea what to say around black folk? Once the "Jews are the original Black People" quip went over like a lead balloon, maybe he should have shut up.

I am always amazed when I see socially awkward adults. Especially the ones who try too hard and share too much around people they don't know.

[BenadrylBrownie]

It seemed like TLC tried extra hard to edit Brian's interactions as awkward and falling flat with the others. I liked him but I truly need him to stop calling Tara a black Barbie. Just...no.

Although I have no concept of what their world is truly like, I liked it. I like the younger couple a lot and do not like Domonique or Ivy at all.

I'll be watching.

[MrsSea]

Where the fuck did her hairline go?

Edited by TWoP Howard, Jan 3, 2013 @ 2:22 AM.
Please don't hide words behind asterisks

[scruffy73]

I won't be watching this foolery. This is like RHOA without cussing. I'm no holy roller and I KNOW that First Ladies and Pastors are real people but come on! These folks are terrible representatives of Christianity. That might be why they don't have churches. Nobody wants to follow their leadership. I definitely think the Jewish Pastor and the Black Barbie (yeah right) couldn't relate to the people they came to minister to and the congregation found that out quickly and gave them the boot. Tara couldn't relate to the other First Ladies. Not that Domonique invited her to be nice. She invited her to get the 411 on her and why they got fired. These folks are so shady and messy. I get enough of that with RHOA. I don't need the mess mixed with scriptures.

[ChainofFools]

All I can say is wow.

Thus far, the only First Lady I like is Christina. She came across as genuine in her caring and her fellowship. She and her husband appear to be raising relatively well adjusted normal teens. The sex/condem talk was right on.

Tara comes across as really desperate to connect but not be ignored. I'm sure some of that is rooted in her current tenuous predicament in Atlanta.. I mean to uproot your family a nd then literally have no reason to be there after purchasing a home must be devastating, thus explaining her family's participation in the show. Also, having both sides of the family cut you off has to be something beyond words. I felt sorry for her because having an imposing and overpowering personality coupled with a deep belief in The Lord must be her way of not being shunted aside cand getting internal validation.

Dominque comes across as a nasty piece of work. She has no real sense of felllowship within her. She hated on Christina because of the success Christina and her husband have. She could not wait to criticize and tear down Tara, and yes it was clear where you and little miss Ivy were going with your comments about her kids and how they were being parented. I also din't get the sense that she cares for her husband so much as she cares for the life she feels her husband's title should afford her. I mean it could turn out that things have happened within the marriage to make her cold to him but nothing she said tonight made that clear. She just seems like her validation comes from looking down on others.

Ivy, I think there is a reason she seems so close to Dominique, and those reasons do not speak well of her. Also, I didn't need to see or hear that much about your sex life. What was that about. Am also confused because she said she was a member of the group Xscape but she fell in love with her pastor husband and left, then she said she and her husband are still newlyweds.

[AD35]

Oh my. I have never seen anyone who couldn't read a room like Pastor Brian. He and Tara were married for over ten years and he has no idea what to say around black folk? Once the "Jews are the original Black People" quip went over like a lead balloon, maybe he should have shut up.

After seeing that little exchange I'm sure that had alot to do with his getting fired from his last church.

[OaklandGirl]

Where the f*ck did her hailrine go?

To Heaven? Seriously, Tara's hair line was snatched bald like Brandy's and Naomi Campbell's. Looks like it's been licked clean away by kittens or something. Nice cheekbones and toned body, though.

[AZChristian]

This looks like a horrible train wreck. And yet I can't look away.

[jamisloan]

I loved this. I used to live in Atlanta, so that makes me like it more. I think it's an interesting concept that we haven't seen before, lives of preachers and their wives. Basically, it's a reality show GCB (which I wasn't very fond of and lost interest in after like 5 episodes).
I will definitely be watching. Loved Christina and her family. Props to her husband for that sex talk and telling it like it is. It's refreshing to see a father say, "I don't want you to have sex BUT if you do, here is how to do it safely".

Ivy seemed off to me, like maybe she's on some anxiety or anti depressants. Her little boy is adorable (I think I would try to shave off his unibrow though, if it were my kid bc that's all I could focus on when he was shown).

Didn't like Tara or her husband. The things he said were just weird and not appropriate at all. The way he kept looking at his wife at the gym was gross to me. He looked like he wanted to eat her. Gross.

Dominque seemed like a very unhappy person. She seems like a person who, if she isn't happy, then no one should be. Which is the opposite of how I would imagine a "first lady" should be. Be happy for your sisters through Christ regardless of what is going on with you.

[prosperity2day]

scruffy73
I won't be watching this foolery. This is like RHOA without cussing.

I have cut my reality TV shows down to a couple and said I would not watch any new reality shows that boarders on stupid with idiotic people who have no talent other than acting like a fool on TV just to be seen with hopes of becoming the next break out star. Thanks but no thanks to this show.

[EndoKE]

Christina sounds too much like Gloria in "Basketball Wives LA."

Edited by EndoKE, Jan 2, 2013 @ 1:53 PM.

[SistaLadybug]

I am going to be present and accounted for every week, with my church hat pinned firmly in place. I am LOVING this show already.

I was impressed with the the dad and mom who had that open talk about safe sex with their teenaged girls. I think we need more transparency in the church about sexual issues. I even appreciated the couples acting like normal husbands and wives and discussing sex. We expect perfection from our church leadership and I don't think that's wise. They are human beings. I believe our houses of worship should address the whole being - God was pleased to create us as sexual beings and that's not something of which we should be ashamed.

I already don't like (Jewish) Brian. I can see why he was released by his church. He still hasn't figured out how to navigate the culture and puts his foot in his mouth constantly. He was probably offending folks and making them uncomfortable right and left. Not to mention that he is way too excited about being in an interracial marriage. No one cares as much as you do, Brian.

Dominique needs to keep it cute. She's throwing shade at Tara and Brian, MEANWHILE, she has no church home either because they had to close. Word on the street is that there were all kinds of shoddy financial dealings there, so perhaps she isn't the person to play detective when it comes to such things. Not to mention that she might not want to snark about Tara's lack of communication skills when she seems to toss random unnecessary "s" into words (e.g., "mines" instead of "mine) and can't get her clichés straight - it's "something in the milk ain't clean", sis, not "something in the milk ain't right". I, having been in the church all my life, understand how annoying it can be to have someone preaching at you all the time and throwing out Scriptures everywhere, but come on. This is a group of First Ladies. If this isn't the audience for that, what is? She and Ivy invited Tara there to read her and wound up getting a free reading themselves.

Edited by SistaLadybug, Jan 2, 2013 @ 2:05 PM.

[AZChristian]

I already don't like (Jewish) Brian. I can see why he was released by his church. He still hasn't figured out how to navigate the culture and puts his foot and his mouth constantly. He was probably offending folks and making them uncomfortable right and left. Not to mention that he is way too excited about being in an interracial marriage. No one cares as much as you do, Brian.

First he decided he wasn't Jewish. Now he's decided he's not white. Wonder if he's going to eventually decide he's not heterosexual.

[EndoKE]

When I saw Brian I didn't think he was white either; I thought he was a light skinned black man. At any rate I don't think he or his wife are anything special.

[scruffy73]

Dominique needs to keep it cute. She's throwing shade at Tara and Brian, MEANWHILE, she has no church home either because they had to close. Word on the street is that there were all kinds of shoddy financial dealings there, so perhaps she isn't the person to play detective when it comes to such things. Not to mention that she might not want to snark about Tara's lack of communication skills when she seems to toss random unnecessary "s" into words (e.g., "mines" instead of "mine) and can't get her clichés straight - it's "something in the milk ain't clean", sis, not "something in the milk ain't right". I, having been in the church all my life, understand how annoying it can be to have someone preaching at you all the time and throwing out Scriptures everywhere, but come on. This is a group of First Ladies. If this isn't the audience for that, what is? She and Ivy invited Tara there to read her and wound up getting a free reading themselves.

Domonique and Ivy are the reasons I won't watch this show. Okay, not the total reasons, but they are big reasons. They are messy as hell and stupid. Domonique is ignorant and judgmental...and without a church. How about she and her husband get their minds right and find out a way to get back in the pulpit if they are so-called called to minister. Maybe he needs to take an assistant pastorship. Haven't they heard "don't work don't eat". It's biblical. (I'm in that situation right now and I'm going to have to do what I have to to stay working to stay eating!) They must be making good at Domonique's boutique. I hope so. I don't wish her ill. I just wish she would get it together and stop being stank. Tara is kinda ghetto but I'm glad she went in on Domonique and Ivy because they really did invite her over to be messy. If Domonique wanted to get to know Tara on her own she didn't have to invite Ivy to be a witness.

[mochamajesty]

The thing that I disliked the most about Dominique is the fact that she was so eaten up with jealousy over Christina's church. That more than anything shows what kind of person she is.

Brian seems like one of those men who makes dating a Black women into a fetish. Tara is super spiritual. Between the two of them, I can totally see why they no longer have a church.


I don't remember Ivy from Xscape.

I will be back next week.

[Eric83]

When I first saw Brian, I thought he was Tara's gay BFF she exercises with. '_'

[MacabreParlor]

Not sure if this is a must see for me yet but the show had its moments. I tend to agree with the majority here. Christina and her family (and church) are kinda awesome. Dominique and Ivy are pretty horrible. I liked Tara, she had great style, beautiful children and a pretty sweet personality. I also liked that she stood up to Dominique and Ivy. Brian was just awkward and there was something so off (putting) about him. It must be really hard for them though. I can't imagine not having any family support, moving cross country and then losing their job.

Yep I guess I am in for at least a few more episodes.

[AyeshaTheGreat]

I don't remember Ivy from Xscape.

Apparently, I wasn't the only one confused when I heard her say that. Kandi received a lot of tweets about it and straightened it out. Ivy never appeared on an Xscape album. The group was trying to get back together without Kandi and Ivy was supposed to be the replacement. That seems to be the extent of her Xscape membership.

As for the rest of the show, I will probably watch. I haven't had a male pastor in my church in 20 years so I'm not really used to "first ladies". However, I've seen them in other churches but mostly they are older. Since I can't really relate, I guess it makes it easier to watch this mess.

[OaklandGirl]

Wonder if he's going to eventually decide he's not heterosexual.

Yeah, I was wondering about him everytime he popped up on screen... pinging my gaydar and what not.

[prmami]

I'm interested in hearing more about Domonique and her crack pike story.

I came in on the middle of the show then watched the part I missed during the rerun but it looks like Delana was missing from the whole episode.

[mochamajesty]

Upon rewatch I wonder about the point of this show. These women are (or seem to be) low rent, with the exception of Christina. No self-respecting first lady that I know would do this.

I wonder what Ivy's congregation thinks.

I do like the fact that they show the pastors struggling financially. Many people think that pastorsget rich of of the congregation.

[OaklandGirl]

I do like the fact that they show the pastors struggling financially. Many people think that pastorsget rich of of the congregation.

I'm curious about how the finances are handled for churches. I know nothing about it, and yet Christina and Pastor Anthony's family seem to be doing well, while the others aren't doing as well. Do they give themselves a salary? Did they not take a salary as they were building the church? How is that new "children's wing" that is being added on to Christina and Pastor Anthony's church being funded? Is that part of the 'building fund' every church has? So many questions that I know won't be answered in just 8 episodes...

[mochamajesty]

I'm curious about how the finances are handled for churches. I know nothing about it, and yet Christina and Pastor Anthony's family seem to be doing well, while the others aren't doing as well. Do they give themselves a salary? Did they not take a salary as they were building the church? How is that new "children's wing" that is being added on to Christina and Pastor Anthony's church being funded? Is that part of the 'building fund' every church has? So many questions that I know won't be answered in just 8 episodes...

This differs. Most churches that l know of are funded directly through tithes and offerings of members and visitors. The Children's wing may be funded through a building fund. Members might be asked to give extra to go to that particular cause. Other churches also hold bake sales, charge admission for plays and concerts etc..

Location is important. Christina's church seems to be in an affluent area while Ivy's church is not.

I know pastors who work another job until the church is financially stable enough to support them. And you would be amazed at the gifts (monetary and otherwise) that members give to pastors and first ladies. I wonder if the show will
touch on the fact that people often worship the pastor/first lady.

Edited by mochamajesty, Jan 3, 2013 @ 1:06 AM.

[FinePoint]

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scruffy73
I won't be watching this foolery. This is like RHOA without cussing.

I have cut my reality TV shows down to a couple and said I would not watch any new reality shows that boarders on stupid with idiotic people who have no talent other than acting like a fool on TV just to be seen with hopes of becoming the next break out star. Thanks but no thanks to this show.

Me three. Won't watch again.

[AZChristian]

Regarding finances. In most denominational churches, it's either forbidden or discouraged for the pastor's wife to be on the board (voting for financial issues), and ESPECIALLY to be in a position as treasurer or with any check-signing ability at all.

I missed the very beginning when the re-run came on. We turned it on because I wanted hubby to see the train wreck. I remember seeing one of the wives (Christina?) signing checks in her office at the church. Just not a good idea, but in independent churches (especially when founded by a strong pastoral leader who is still there), they can make up the rules as they go along. Hopefully, someone else reviews the books as well. Too many churches get into trouble when there is no financial accountability. "Of course the new window coverings for the pastor's house should be paid for by the church (i.e., the people who go to the church) and not come out of my husband's paycheck!" In cases like that, it happens too often that some little old lady living on Social Security and subsisting on cat food is putting 10% of her meager income into the church so the church leaders can have a private jet.

[PharmGal10]

I'm so mad I missed this! I hope it's available OnDemand. Funny enough, RHoATL/ex-Xscape member Kandi tweeted that her bf, Todd, is a line producer for the show. Very cool.

[honybr]

Funny enough, RHoATL/ex-Xscape member Kandi tweeted that her bf, Todd, is a line producer for the show.

That makes it even more bizarre that she would act like she was a member of Xscape for real vs. in name only for a couple of days. Why lie/exaggerate about something so little? Especially in the day and age of the internet and twitter where the truth can be found out within minutes.

I'm going to watch a couple of more episodes, but I'm not sure I'm all the way in yet. I'm a preacher's wife and know my fair share of first ladies on a personal basis and not one of them act like this. I'm out west though so I don't know if that has anything to do with it.

Regarding finances. In most denominational churches, it's either forbidden or discouraged for the pastor's wife to be on the board (voting for financial issues), and ESPECIALLY to be in a position as treasurer or with any check-signing ability at all.

I was so surprised when she was signing the checks. I know they founded the church but now that it's up to 2000 members I think it would be best they find some trusted members to handle the finances. Their church is non-denominational though so I might be putting my Baptist rules into play there. It would seem though that if anyone begins to question the finances they wouldn't want their hands to be the only ones in it.

I couldn't believe how jealous Dominique was of Christina. She couldn't even fake being happy for them. However, I don't know that I would have given such the grand tour to a couple that had to close their church because of financial reasons.

I was horrified that Ivy would be so open about their sex life. First no one wants to hear all that, but scandals of pastors bedding the women (and sometimes the men) in their congregation is notorious and her letting everyone in her church that the pastor is a freak is just begging for trouble.

I hope this show will have a reunion because I'll be interested to see how these women who "set an example for the congregation" will defend or react to the others talking serious mess.