My take on it is that I believe Bryan has a trait that can seem cold, arrogant or falsely entitled in some: I think he's a little reserved and introverted, which seems an odd thing to say about a reality show participant but he doesn't have a showman's personality. He's a little restrained and prone to not being very confrontational. Not in passive-aggressive way, he just says what he thinks sort of quietly and then stops talking.
I personally like that about him a lot. He's just a tiny bit awkward, but in such a pleasant way and I think the kind of guys humor, "the most romantic thing I've done is punch Doug in the leg" is just not something he's super skilled at with anyone but his brother and even then I think of Michael as being the bigger personality, the person more prone to mixing it up and getting loud.
A good example of what I'm talking about is that little snippet we saw when the group was sitting around talking about Bryan getting ready to renew his vows and how his third child was on the way. The other guys are being playful in the best way, they aren't being mean, but they're being very "It's fun here in the locker room where we routinely dump coolers on each other's heads! Time to scratch!" very "nooooo, man don't do it! Why do that twice, isn't once bad enough? She's making you, isn't she?" and it's all with lots of laughter and no real derision, but Bryan actually just didn't get it or they were talking about something too important to him to joke around about, because with sort of a dwindling smile he said, "No, it's not like that." and just sort of picked at his beer label. He wasn't really laughing it off, he wasn't wounded to the core, he just didn't seem to know how to handle the attempt at Dude Humor.
Most of those guys are married, they were just busting on him, but it's not Bryan's first language and he doesn't seem to go easily between the friendly posturing of Sang and Doug, to being good, emotionally supportive guy a la Doug really being super kind to Jen (when none of the other guys were there) when she said she was so glad it wasn't her up there (at Judge's table) and Doug said the perfect thing: "No one begrudges you that reaction, Jen, we're all here to win." Not dismissively, not with faux sincerity, just the right emotional tone so that you could tell she felt better just hearing it.
Bryan can't step easily between his personas that way and only really seems to have one main one. The other guys, all of their sides are equally sincere, they just easily slide from one persona to the next as appropriate for the moment.
That's my take on it, that may not be the truth of the matter and it wouldn't change the fact that that inability to joke around, that almost too serious thing Bryan has might not appeal to everyone.
I like him. If he wins I certainly won't be upset. Has he won at all here though? I can name Jen's charity, Sang's and Doug's but I'm drawing a blank on Bryan's leading me to believe he's been runner up a bunch.
Edited by stillshimpy, Sep 5, 2013 @ 6:12 PM.