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[EndoKE]

This show just started a few weeks ago and to me, it's a lot better than that "Love Addiction" show on Logo. Website.

What I find interesting about this show is the therapists/psychologists are more interested in showing the people who've been brought for the "intervention" their patterns. Last night was a woman who seriously had no idea how her relationship with her father when she was a child, taught her about dating and men. Very interesting.

[PharmGal10]

I like the show (like the purpose), but I was so heated when I found out that the first two episodes had men who have been on several reality shows with various girlfriends. Makes me feel like some of the couples are fake.

Like the girl with lupus that was shown two episodes back. Supposedly, she'd been with her man for years, but he was on Dr. Phil or Dr. Drew's talk show with a 'wife' last year, and that woman looked nothing like the woman shown on Love Addiction. Maybe the the girl with lupus was the guy's real girlfriend, and he just does the talk show/reality circuit for money.

I know TVOne isn't above using actors for their reality shows, but I just thought they'd do better. They usually do.

[atlpeach]

I greatly prefered the Dr. in the "Unavailable Man" episode than the one in the first two episodes. The problem wasn't with the man (Sheldon) but with the woman and her self esteem. That's a problem I think many women share. I'm inclined to believe at least this episode was real since the woman's father died during filming and you could see how disinterested her "boyfriend" was during the whole thing. Plus I don't think her cousin was acting when he went off on the "boyfriend".

[EndoKE]

Well one of the guys did say he was an actor and I think that older woman had been on a realty show before as well. But I did like the Dr. in the Unavailable Man episode. I like that he addressed the woman's dating patterns and how it started because of her relationship with her father. Though I was like, "duh" I know that many people can't connect the dots as to what happened in childhood and what's going on now.

[PharmGal10]

I'm inclined to believe at least this episode was real since the woman's father died during filming and you could see how disinterested her "boyfriend" was during the whole thing. Plus I don't think her cousin was acting when he went off on the "boyfriend".

I don't think her episode was fake. I was referring to the first two. Men claiming women on this show, but having wives/girlfriends when appearing on other talk shows/reality shows. It's just weird to me, and hard for me to suspend disbelief.

[Sayuri1188]

The guy in the first episode is Marcus Foy, who's been on tv before. (I recognized him from the Janice Dickinson Modeling Agency.) As soon as I saw him in that melodramatic promo (in which his timing's off and he yells "Don't stop me!" before anyone even comes after him), I knew it'd be a fake show.

[prosperity2day]

I've only seen two episodes of this show(the girl with Lupus and the dude who was living the older Vegas showgirl) but I'm thinking they are taking real life cases and acting them out like they do on Operation Repo and after reading the comments I's sure that's what they're doing. Some of the acting is bad.

Edited by prosperity2day, May 25, 2012 @ 1:26 PM.

[kemon]

I had to do a google search to find this show. I guess no one is really watching this show, that's why there are no current posts?

I found a few of the episodes to be straight up scripted and faked, but the one with the girl whose dad died, doesn't hit my radar as being fake. What was with the nasty wigs? Straight up from dollar stores. Not a scalp to be seen.

I caught the episode with that one dude, Gershwin? Really? Blackbird...How appropriate his name. For those who don't know, the vast majority of bird species are socially monogamous, usually for one breeding season at a time, sometimes for years, but rarely for life. LOL

As much as the girlfriend claimed she loved him for what he was, me thinks she is just saying that to pacify him.

[EndoKE]

I don't really notice or care if the episodes are scripted. I watch the show for the situations, not for the people. It's like they say in 12 step programs, "identify with the situations, don't compare yourself to the people." I found the situation with the woman whose parents had died and was sticking to the guy because she didn't want to be lonely, very interesting. I think a lot of women get in their late thirties and feel that if they haven't met "the one" the only thing they can do is settle. Sometimes I think the therapists aren't exactly living in the real world with what they tell these people. The truth is that everybody has to settle at some point; it just depends on what you're willing to deal with.

[scarlett45]

Well not everyone HAS to settle. Settling for someone short when you like tall men isn't settling if you have genuine affection for the shorter man. Settling, convincing yourself you are happy with less than you need emotionally and physically will just make you miserable.

[EndoKE]

Settling for someone short when you like tall men isn't settling if you have genuine affection for the shorter man.

To an extent that is settling. If you really are into tall men it could cause a person to not even give a shorter man a chance. So by dropping that wall, it could be seen as settling. I think settling gets a bad rap; there are some things that a person really has to give up. The woman last night needed to get out of the relationship because she wanted something different than the man wanted and it was bothering her.

What gets me about a lot of the therapists is they never ask the men or the women if they're more interested in a particular situation, than the person themselves. I'm not talking about if the person is being abusive, but if a woman wants to get married and she's with a really good man who doesn't want marriage, is it more important for her to get married, or to be with the man, who is a good person?

[PharmGal10]

I found a few of the episodes to be straight up scripted and faked

Yup, a few of the episodes have had me rolling my eyes at the fakeness of it. I do get bothered by it because I find it very distracting, and I can't get interested in someone's story if it's not even true. The more recent episodes seem real, like the one with the light-skinned dude with locs and his girlfriend with the pixie cut. Her friend really got into an emotionally charged argument with the boyfriend, and he didn't seem to understand how clingy and jealous he was.

I get the purpose of a Love Intervention, but sometimes, I wish the therapists would sit down with the couple, not just one person and their friends/family. Like the dude with locs from a previous episode had a back story that I found interesting and would have liked seen explored since it explained his clinginess.It was only vaguely referenced.

Edited by PharmGal10, Jun 21, 2012 @ 8:47 AM.

[EndoKE]

For me, even if the story being shown is scripted and fake, there are real people who have those same issues and I really watch the show more for the issues than the people. I too do agree that the therapists should sometimes sit down with both people, I would have liked to have heard what the guy with the locs had to say. His back story was interesting and I think the therapist should have told him that he needed to deal with his issues if he wanted to ever have a "healthy relationship."

And that's my other issue with this show. What exactly is a "healthy" relationship? What's healthy to one person won't be healthy to others. I have discovered that sometimes I might think something is crazy, but the people in the situation find it normal.

[scarlett45]

Well I think there are somethings people can agree are NOT healthy- i.e. physical abuse, verbal abuse etc even if the people in the relationship think its normal.

I thought it was telling in the last episode, when the woman's father died and her cousin was upset with the boyfriend for not being there for her. Her dad died and this "boyfriend" was talking about the "newness" of the relationship (an 8month relationship). Right there big red flags were going off. It's common human decency to have concern when someone is grieving.

My Gram had a phrase "I can do bad by myself." relationships are supposed to make you feel good and enhance your life. If your relationship isn't doing that for you then it's not worth it. Life is too short to have bad relationships.

Ah EndoKe I see what you are saying! I guess we were interpreting the word "settle" in different ways. Dating someone short when you like tall better isn't settling to me. Compromising your core values/life goals to be in a relationship is settling, i.e. If your goal is to get married versus being with a particular person and you decide to settle on not getting married in order to be with the person.....

A good rule of thumb is if everyone in your life cannot stand your significant other (for reasons other than racism/homophobia etc) red flags should be going off in your head.

Edited by scarlett45, Jun 21, 2012 @ 9:17 AM.

[Ty]

I see Deena Jacobs has made her way onto this show. She's a professional reality show contestant. She's been on H8r, Drag U, Dr. Drew and a bunch of other shows. It wouldn't be so bad if she wasn't such a horrible actress.

[kemon]

I watch the show for the situations, not for the people.

To me, it is like watching a sitcom hoping to get a lesson or message out of it - it is pointless.

What exactly is a "healthy" relationship?

Two partners (or more?) who support one another and at the same time exist as individuals. They are also consenting without making their partner feel uncomfortable in any way.

I think there are somethings people can agree are NOT healthy- i.e. physical abuse, verbal abuse etc even if the people in the relationship think its normal.

ITA.

the one with the light-skinned dude with locs and his girlfriend with the pixie cut. Her friend really got into an emotionally charged argument with the boyfriend, and he didn't seem to understand how clingy and jealous he was

I really got into this episode because judging from the description of this episode, I thought I might see this dude fly off the handle or something. The girl's roommate did say that the guy had alluded about his girl being "loose."

I get the purpose of a Love Intervention, but sometimes, I wish the therapists would sit down with the couple, not just one person and their friends/family. Like the dude with locs from a previous episode had a back story that I found interesting and would have liked seen explored since it explained his clinginess.It was only vaguely referenced.

I agree.

I also thought, why is it the end goal of this program seems to get the person out of the relationship? Why not get this couple into counseling and maybe try to preserve this relationship? As for the loc guy and his girl, was it becoming a dangerous relationship and she needed to get out? From what the show showed us, he was clingy and jealous, but I didn't hear anything that he was a danger to her, unless I missed it because I did get distracted for about five minutes. Was he keeping her from friends and family? Was he going through her personal stuff? Was he controlling? Did it border on domestic violence?

[DivaGal]

Just watched the show with the girl with Lupus.

The guy was a total sociopath.

Total disregard for the feelings of others.

Listening to him actually made me afraid for the gf.