I never really saw the great friendship in the first place though. I always thought that Alicia was so desperate for a friend that she latched on to the first person who showed interest in her, and Kalinda has always seemed so withholding that their friendship looked severely unbalanced to me. So I'd be happy if they never really reconciled.
Somehow, I totally missed your post! It’s really interesting how some people never really saw anything in that friendship, while others…saw the world. I’d loved Kalinda, but never really thought that much of it either, until the writers broke them up and I saw both of them crying, BECAUSE of the other. After seeing two strong, independent women, both pretty guarded in what they feel/say, completely fall apart over each other out of all the other people, it was really a light bulb moment for me. And now, upon re-watching, I’m constantly wondering how on earth I could have been SO oblivious to their connection.
I think you are spot-on on the analysis on their friendship. However, I think that was just in the beginning. Gradually, after the first few episodes, it became so much more than that, for both of them. Sure, Alicia was so desperate that she probably would have formed a connection with a telephone pole, but I don’t think it would have LASTED if she hadn’t found in Kalinda something else, something that was lacking in her life. Kalinda was her sound board, the ONE person who would just listen to her endlessly, never judge her, always on her side, always having her best interests in mind. Kalinda was the one doing all those “outrageous” things that she was shocked and delighted to see at the same time, Kalinda was pretty much everything she was not. And when Alicia said that she knows so little about Kalinda, Kalinda’s first reaction was: “what do you want to know?” And Alicia replied: “I don’t know” and never pushed the issue further. It was the same after she found out that Kalinda was going to be deposed. Kalinda was the first and only one to ask her what SHE wantined, i.e. if she wanted Peter out or not, then acted accordingly. Alicia likes/needs to talk things out and with Kalinda…before the whole affair thing, she probably thought it was better if she DIDN’t have all the details. The truth is, IMHO, that she drew strength from Kalinda, in the moment of her life that she needed it the most.
And Kalinda, she probably went through the whole spectrum of emotions with Alicia in the span of the first episode: disdain (for just a “housewife” who stuck by her man), pity, guilt, curiosity, then she became intrigued (when Alicia points out the staple thing) and then, after the tequila tradition, I think she came to genuinely like Alicia. And as time passed, I think she really came to like (love) Alicia. She was the one to always help her, even when it wasn’t her job (i.e. when a kid from Alicia’s old neighbourhood comes to Alicia for help), the one who always had her back and supported her in her competition with Cary, the one who PUSHED her to ask for what’s rightfully hers, the one who took her out for tequila to celebrate being made partner, because she just knew Alicia would make a morbid thing out of it. And she had been right all along. Sure, she was always guarded, never liked(s) to talk much about herself, but her actions have always been louder than words towards Alicia. And she also got something out of that friendship: Alicia still managed to somehow retain some innocence, despite everything she’d been through, a naïveté that Kalinda had probably lost a long time ago.
I think that their whole relationship is only at surface one-sided. And in S3, while Alicia was hating Kalinda’s guts (understandably so), Kalinda STILL had her back, every step of the way, helping her whenever she asked and even when she didn’t. It’s up to the writers to make it more balanced, so that maybe more viewers would see the connection.
ETA proper quote tags.
Edited by Mickaela82, Jun 7, 2012 @ 1:42 AM.