I also want to begin this thread with a couple of quotations that might shape a discussion. First, here are some from Jacob's "Good Timing" uber-recap, because I think Jacob understands the Kalinda/Alicia dynamic better than anyone else I've read:
For different reasons, they were holding onto each other so tightly they couldn't even admit it to themselves, and when it fell apart, so did they.
Blake finally figured out that Lela slept with Peter years ago, for helping her create the Kalinda identity. That was it: Slept with a guy, fell into a profoundly loving relationship with his good wife, years later. Hated herself too much to come clean.
From Jacob's recap of the last episode:
Alicia has no friends. She had them back home, but they're all boring or weird or stuck back there, where she used to be. She can't make friends now because she's got no peers: She's married but unmarried, she's a lawyer and a mother, she's a softy and a hardass. The only people who understand her, her only peers, are people just as complicated as she is, and those are the ones she hates the most. . . . Alicia had a friend once. Who told the truth, unadorned; a friend who lied. She was lonely before, and she is lonely now.
Alicia: "You found my daughter."
Kalinda: "She was... Lost."
Alicia: "You brought her home."
Kalinda: "She would've come home on her own..."
Alicia: "You told my kids not to tell me. Why."
Kalinda, nervous: "I don't want a mess..."
Alicia: "What mess."
This mess. Here. I have never done anything that didn't have an agenda attached. Even if I have no agenda, there's an agenda attached. If I brought your daughter to you: Agenda, to make you love me again. Kiss Cary: Agenda, to keep the lines open. The mystique of being Kalinda is that I can't ever do anything kind.
Kalinda: "Alicia, I haven't changed. I'm the same person. I knew I could help, so I helped."
Alicia: "Thank you."
Kalinda: "You don't have to..."
Alicia: "This isn't that conversation. I know your tricks. This isn't getting any wider in scope than the current situation. I am not forgiving you by thanking you. I am not not forgiving you, sitting in this car, because forgiveness and our history are beyond the scope of this conversation. I am thanking you for a good deed, which I have repaid. Not because I love you, but because I don't want to owe you. This is the opposite of a favor."
ibid., verbatim: "-- No. You didn't have to. That's why I'm thanking you."
Kalinda: "Yeah, well, let's not forget that I've never done anything to hurt you, and the fact that I technically don't have a leg to stand on doesn't mean I'm not in pain too. You vanished. The thing that you're constantly threatening to do, the one power you actually wield, and you did it to me. I'm guilty, I get it, but I was very lonely before I met you. And now I'm lonely again. And you seem to be doing just fucking fine."
ibid., verbatim: "You're welcome."
And finally, a bit from an interesting article in TV Guide:
Now the question is will Alicia and Kalinda simply remain on good terms — but nothing more — or will they be able to truly put the pieces of their friendship back together? "There is a protective quality Kalinda has towards Alicia even when their friendship is at its lowest ebb and almost doesn't exist," executive producer and co-creator Robert King told TVGuide.com last week. "The difficulties will be for Alicia to see if she can pull herself out of this kind of anger and frustration with Kalinda and what way a friendship might reconfigure itself."
It may be a tall order to ask Alicia to forgive Kalinda for sleeping with her husband, but now that everything is out in the open, is it possible that their worst days are behind them? "Just like with any relationship, after there is a break, people get together," executive producer and co-creator Michelle King said. "There can't be the very same relationship there was before, but hopefully it can be stronger."
(As an interesting aside, the Kings admit in this article that Season 3 has sort of sucked so far because of the tensions caused by Alicia's fractured relationships. It gives me a little hope that, if they can recognize that, the second half of the season might be more satisfying.)
Anyway, have at it!