As a daughter, how were you treated? Tig's daughters live with their mom who apparently got out of the life (I presume I can't remember what happened to her).
I actually find Tig's daughters to be a fairly accurate, though not very thorough, depiction of teen daughters within an MC. He has two girls: the one who came to visit and the one off-screen, who is apparently fine-ish now but has struggled enough that there was reason for Gemma to follow up and see if she is, indeed, in need of hospitalization. Both are jokingly referred to as crazy--with Tig
for a dad, who wouldn't be?--but also at least grudgingly treated as family. (Notice, too, that Gemma could just casually call up their mom for a status-check, even though she's out of the life? Also accurate. You're never really REALLY out.) I also grew up with one sister and no brothers, with a dad who was all-too-frequently absent from or destructive in our lives. We also split in our reactions to the clubs, with me heading away and her heading toward a life like that of our parents. That's typical; about half the kids flee and about half join up.
Daughters are even trickier ground than grown women. The whole thing where the show depicts the guys loving kids and being really comfy with babies? Totally true. Weird, but totally on track. Girls, too, are golden...until they start looking like women. Then it gets complicated. What kind of woman are they going to be? Fresh meat? Future old lady? Mom in training? Princess (meaning, someone attached to the life, but insulated from it)? Lady (meaning, someone whose mom has gotten out, or who by other means has an exit strategy)? While it's up in the air, a lot of things can happen.
A few times, as a teenager, I had one of my dad's friends grab up on me or something. I once smacked a one-eyed pirate of a middle-aged biker in the face, when I was about 15, for groping me when we hugged hello. I didn't even think about it, because both of my parents had taught me to defend myself against anyone and anything but my parents themselves
. His reaction? He laughed his ass off, and said, "Good for you, kid." And he never did it again, nor were there any kind of repercussions. In that moment, in their world, I declared myself off limits and it was honored. Twenty years later, the same guy tried really hard to help me out when my dad died. Of course, his version of helping out was to offer me crank to stay up while going through his belongings, and volunteering to beat to death the man who robbed my father's corpse. Ah, chivalry.
The upshot of all this is that the kids, all of the kids, are insulated to the best of everyone's ability... until puberty. Then, a lot depends on 1) who the dads are: whether anyone fears them, whether anyone wants to bring their kids in, etc.; 2) how big a role the mom plays and whether she has blinders on about the life or not; and 3) just how absent those dads are. This is true for boys and girls, it just plays out differently because clubs are even more gendered than the other 99% of life.
I didn't see mothers of sons being treated better, or vice versa. And, it didn't seem to me that the MC dads were any closer with or more available to the sons than to the daughters. Also there just were
a lot more daughters among the people I knew, for whatever reason, so I may not have a very accurate picture of the larger trends. I do think, though, there's a good reason a show based on HA went with a name like Sons of Anarchy.
This is a show, in so many ways, about absent (incarcerated, perpetually on the road, dead, emotionally removed, crazy, etc) fathers. That is maybe the single most accurate thing about the show, in my experience. Growing up 1% means growing up with a dark God for a father: scary, destructive, all-powerful, unpredictable, and too often unseen and unknown. As you rightly infer, that looks a lot different if you have the option to become
the destroyer god than it does if the best you can hope for is to have him love you back. Missing Dad, though? It's an issue for all of us kids of outlaw bikers, I think. For some of us, that leads to chasing Dad forever, right into the life (Jax, Opie...I wonder a LOT about Tara). For others, it's the first step of the road out (which was exactly what Donna, for instance, wanted Opie's incarceration to be).
Edited by RisiaSkye, Nov 2, 2011 @ 3:55 PM.