I can't understand why Tia would allow herself to be seen in such a bad light.
I think Tia simply doesn't think her behavior is bad, She thinks she's doing the right thing and Tamera is just being extra sensitive so she pays lip service to the idea of compromising and moves on.
She also frequently projects her own feelings/insecurities on to Tamera.
- Last season, she felt that Tamera was judging her parenting skills because she asked for advice from other people and wasn't interesting in attachment parenting when, in reality, Tia was really experiencing a lot of stress and loss of sleep over Cree co-sleeping.
- This season, Tia has anxiety over how Cory will react to her burlesque performance and turns that into Tamera being prudish and judgmental even though she said multiple times that she doesn't have a problem with it, it's just not something she'd want to do or would do without talking to her husband first.
- She's telling Tamera that she needs to stop dressing so conservatively and like a politician's wife just as she starts embracing a new, edgier look. Which also ties into...
- Tia completely glossing over what Tamera had already told her and insisting to Kam that she thought the real reason Tamera was so upset about being ditched was because she felt like she was missing out on something "the old Tamera" would have done before she had the baby. Yet, that behavior and way of thinking falls in line more with Tia's constant hot mama, "I've still got it" schtick she's been riding this season.
It seems that any time Tia finds herself feeling uncomfortable or unhappy with something in her life, she paints Tamera as the antagonist in her mind that she she has to defend herself against to work things out.
Speaking of that fashion show, Tia's behavior towards Tamera about Vegas is especially annoying considering how things went down re: the fashion show. Being family didn't change Tia's mind in that instance, why should it change Tamera's mind later? As I recall, Tia's main argument for that was that she'd made the plans months in advance and had to honor them. Hmm, sort of like how Tamera had planned to go to Adam's event months in advance and wanted to honor that too. Such a double standard.
Edited by Babiicakes, Aug 12, 2013 @ 3:20 AM.