I stumbled onto this show by accident, though I've seen the ads, I wasn't that much interested in the show. By boredom only, I decided to watch it and was completely surprise by the show and the added deaf community. That's something you don't see often, or at all, and it intruded me enough to stick around, among other aspects. That being said...
I'm right there with you
thefifthofnov, though my situation is very similar to Daphne's. I too was a child who got a virus and lost hearing, though I am not deaf, I did lose a significant amount to be classified as one. So the character hits very close to home with me, which is one of the reasons I want to stick around. Another reason is because she living the life I never had, my parents had no knowledge on what to do with a kid who could barely hear and while I'm sure they did the best they could, I wished they had done more such as Daphne's mother. I can understand her concern with putting Daphne in a public school where kids make fun of you for not being able to hear, because that's what happen to me. At a young age it can help to be around people who's similar and thrive and it helps boost your self esteem. I've never had that and always felt like an outsider, but Daphne got to live her life without children taunts. Now she's grown and can choose what she wants, she has enough confident to not worry what other says about her, and I wish I had her life because of that, or at least wish my parents had some kind of knowledge.
I'm 24, and I've came to terms with it, but I've hated it for a very long time. In the end when Daphne said that Bay was her in another life, I completely felt the same about her, in relation to myself, regarding the hearing aspect. So, I'll keep watching, and wondering how different my life would have been had I had the same opportunities that she given.
As for Bay, I couldn't relate to her much, but I did somewhat understand because yes, the rich parents were a couple of bitches. They had a daughter for 16/17 years and while she's not blood related, they're her daughter. Suddenly they find their blood daughter and it's as though Bay is the ugly step sister. I can see why Bay lashed out the way she did, if only for the attention that she used to have before they found their blood daughter.
I also didn't like their intrusion in Daphne's life; trying to get the surgery and moving her to a different school to "correct" what her mother screwed up. She's comfortable in her life, and likes who she is, who were they to claim ownership of that, but also who was her mother to decide for her? I found it funny that when Bay had her nose ring and Daphne's mother was like "it's her body, her choice" yet couldn't implement the same mentality when it came to her daughter about the surgery. All three parents need to take a step back, I can understand the awkwardness and sudden change in life, and the "what if" questions, but what done is done and in the end the girls are nprobably pretty happy with how their lives turned out.
However, I did have one compliant. While I don't know much about the deaf community, I do know from personal experience that someone with a hearing issue at such a young age would not be able to talk as well as Daphne did. It kind of took me out of the moment every time she spoke with no pauses for how to pronounce a word, or other speech defects. Now if I'm wrong please correct me because as said, I'm going from my own personal speaking experience, but I expected less speaking and more signing.
The one thing I didn't really like in regards to the deaf aspect. I wish the single mother (can't remember names right now) would have given the reasons why NOT to get an implant first and then mention that her daughter does not want it. It's far from a black and white issue, and most of the hearing world thinks it is. Without even getting in to the emotional reasons the Deaf Community is conflicted on implants, there are numerous medical reasons, varying "success", not to mention that cost, which is usually not covered one penny by insurance.
Yes! It was Daphne's choice, not the mother. I too would have liked a list of reasons, as I've never heard of this surgery (very oblivious to the deaf community unfortunately), and would have liked a reason why she didn't approve. As said before, she had no problem with Bay's nose ring but had a problem with the surgery without a reason why, and while I know there's more at risk with a surgery than a needle through the nose, it was still Daphne's decision. How did she know she did not want it? Did she ever talk about it with her? I doubt it, and I felt that it was more of a defense mechanism more than anything.
Sorry for the long post guys...
Edited by HybridIce, Jun 7, 2011 @ 1:17 PM.