What I meant was that India and their people do not really like their babies or children to be adopted outside their country. Special needs children are easier to adopt internationally. I am sure that Zoey was fed, but what she was fed is the question as she appeared malnourished in the orphanage. I know India is a poor country and there is probably not enough nutritious food to go around. It is very sad really and a truly difficult situation. Contrast that with China and Will appeared to be very well fed and the whole adoption process seemed seamless. The people and medical staff seemed friendlier and more organized than India. I am just happy that Zoey is looking much healthier and happier at home with Jen and Bill.
Zoey does look so much healthier and happier now. If I had to guess, she was in a state run orphanage. India does not have many agreements with privately run orphanages that are more like charities or missionary projects. While there is an attitude against international adoption, I have to wonder if some of what we saw was more of an attitude about being filmed. With our Taiwan experience, we were inundated with people who wanted their photo taken with us and with our daughter. Even when we were out an about shopping or eating, people were stopping at the table or walking right up to us and taking our photo. From my experiences traveling to India on business, the people are much more reserved.
From my understanding, India does not include much information or guidance on adoptions prior to the adoptive parents' arrival. I was shocked at the lack of information Jen and Bill received - especially concerning food. We were sent away from the orphanage the first day with our daughter's favorite formula, a list of foods she liked/hated, and even a few tips about words that helped calm her down if upset.
Some countries even include the birth parents (mother only usually) in the process. I know this isn't true of Will's case, but in our case we actually met with the birth mother and father with a translator in Taiwan. It meant a chance to get answers to questions and to even get photos that we will share with our child when she's older and asking questions.
Will's medical appointment in China was very typical, as the child is usually taken to the location where he or she received medical care. When we took our daughter for her appointment, nurses and doctors who had treated her as an infant came out from everywhere to see her and take photos of her. They even wanted to friend us on Facebook and get e-mails about her when she got to our home.
I'm going to trust Jen's judgment on not seeking medical attention in India. The decision to leave was probably hard enough. The decision of leaving her children, her husband, etc. because of how she was feeling was a good indication to me that she recognized whatever the issue was warranted that action. It could be that she was concerned about delaying the family's return home if she was admitted to a hospital in India. Maybe she really felt that she had to see her own doctors. Whatever it was that motivated her to seek medical treatment in the US, she probably did not enter into that decision lightly or without weighing the consequences out in her mind many times.