It was only when Callie confronted her that she told the truth which is that she didn't trust Callie not to leave her.
Callie asked why she didn't even consider changing her mind on kids. Arizona's answer is that she wasn't ready to contemplate this idea for Callie because she wasn't yet sure of Callie's love and commitment. This doesn't mean Arizona was lying about not wanting kids. She didn't. At the end of the episode she explains why -- she thought she'd be a horrible mother (likely too selfish and Type A in her mind), but she realized that with Callie, she could do it because Callie would be a great mom. (Would love to see a bit of evidence of this...sigh.)
Not trusting someone is a good reason to break up, but it is shitty to even continue a relationship with someone when you don't trust her and you don't let her know.
Not really. I always looked at it as Arizona was a bit over her head with Callie. She fell hard and fast, admitted it, but also didn't want to go too fast. She 'wanted to stay in the sexy side of things.' Even after they got back together she was terrified Callie was going to propose or ask to have a baby and that wasn't something she was ready for. Moving in together was her speed. And then she blew it over Africa.
For me, Africa was Arizona's complete and total wake up call that she NEEDED Callie and actually wanted a LIFE with her. She loved her before, but she was selfish and wasn't necessarily ready to make huge changes in her life that being in a committed relationship entailed. And it's not like Callie was perfect. Prior to Africa, she rebelled at painting HER apartment (rather than theirs), and not only did she feel the need to compete with Arizona for the million dollars, she tried to pysch her girlfriend out of giving her best presentation to Webber, which really wasn't cool.
Callie intimated as much when she and Cristina took their awesome day at the mall. She was first seen sprawled across the bed all depressed and eagerly checking her phone to see if Arizona called.
I never got the impression that Callie called Arizona. She was the one who said, 'we are done.' Arizona was the one who had ditched her, so it was Arizona's role to be the person to reach out. And Arizona didn't until she ultimately did. But I don't think Callie emailed or called her either, she was just anxious to hear from Arizona and for it to all be a dream.
What would give Arizona the right to try to force her to talk to her when she never called her back or even asked about her until shewas ready to talk?
Oh, Arizona was completely over-the-top in her pursuit. Personally, I loved it. It felt very in character. Arizona had her epiphany in Africa and so all of her Type A laser focus was directed at getting Callie back. She was willing to say anything and do anything to succeed. And...she did. Honestly, I think it was the right approach with Callie. I think their relationship works the best when Arizona's in the more dominant and aggressive role.
Arizona is a person with a mean streak.
Oh, absolutely agree. And I've always kind of liked that about her character. I love the combination of the perky and the mean streak. I hate the cheating. And I'm really interested in how Arizona's going to eventually figure out why she did what she did, because my impression of the finale is that she didn't honestly know.
Folks are mad that she didn't apologize, but I'm okay with that because she can't apologize until she can feel it and I didn't get the sense that she felt much of anything in the finale other than intellectual horror at what she'd done. But it was all head and no heart.