If by "wishy-washy", you mean "spineless", I agree. I've noticed that she always seems to knuckle-down or kiss-up to anyone with a stronger personality than hers, which seems to be most of these people.
And you just described her marriage in that sentence.
I like this franchise and "the ladies" but NeNe and Kim just seem so beyond this show now, like they're above it and pretty much want nothing to do with it anymore. In the beginning like seasons 1 and 2, it was everyone hanging out together but this season it's like 3 separate shows, "NeNe and who she's hanging out with", "Kim and Kroy's hot mess", "Sheree, Kandi, and Phaedra".
While they were in Africa, I completely forgot Kim was part of the show till they brought her up. I would've LOVED to see her in Africa. That def would've put a spin on the whole trip. Oh well. snoooooooooz.....