I liked what Kelly said when someone asked her about how her children court
"We encourage them to become close friends and get to know each other BEFORE entering courtship. By the time our kids are ready to court, they’re best friends and feel that they are moving forward to see if they should marry. During courtship, they’re obviously getting to know each other in a much different way, with the thought of marriage in mind. They are boyfriend and girlfriend at this point, not just friends. They do Bible study together, share beliefs, goals…It’s a time that they can be sparky and say, “I love you!” and go on dates, and buy gifts for one another, and express their feelings. Then engagement, for us, is a time of wedding planning. Every family is different in how they view the courtship process. There are many books and DVDs and MANY opinions. We have chosen what we feel is best to help us meet our goals, but others might pursue relationships in a different manner. Love, Kelly"
She also said that
"No, we allow each couple to decide if they want to hold hands in courtship, or engagement, or not til marriage. Our goal for them is purity and honoring Christ. We feel that holding hands can be done innocently if they are careful. But we leave that choice to them. We meet and talk often about any temptations, goals, changes, etc. Love, Kelly"
She also said that they could do hugs if they chose to. The Duggars could honestly learn from these people on how to let your children find life partners. I'll continue praying for the day that some of these kids get away and write a tell all (or at least have someone else write a tell all for them)