This .. is just so ... eww. You weren't invited to the wedding, but they still had the nerve to ask for a gift? In an email??
Yeah, I was in exactly this situation when a boss of mine-- who I'd met twice-- got married. A thank-you note was sent in a mass email, I believe.
I think the klassay-ist move I saw with a register was when a client of mine, worth several million, got married for the third
time... and registered.
To be honest, I've been wrestling with this. PendingWriteForThRosesHusband and I aren't going to register for much, and then it's going to be at Target, not Tiffany's-- sheets and towels and a few pots and glasses since right now I'm still drinking out of plastic stadium cups from college and he doesn't own any. My mom's giving me her everyday and formal china from her wedding, which frankly has a lot more meaning to me. We'll be moving around a lot and want to travel light, plus we don't need stuff
. We just want our loved ones with us on the big day. There will be a lot of moving expenses up front and he's deep in student loan debt, so what we really need is money, and we finally figured that we'll just register for the few things and gift cards and if people ask us what we want, we'll tell them-- but there's certainly not going to be a nudge-nudge-wink-wink from friends or a freaking poem
in the invite. It's a struggle since we are certainly not grubbing for presents, but if people want to get us something, we don't want it to be a hassle for them. Honestly we'll be thrilled if anybody gives us a gift at all, because our friends, like us, are po' and since I've been a guest several times, I know what it's like to take the money and time to get one on a very limited budget.
Edited by WriteForThRoses, Sep 11, 2006 @ 4:34 PM.