I kind of feel that Callie might do better with a guy, I'm not Mallie shipper but at least he didn't put up with trying to push him around the way Arizona did.
This sort of gender essentialism is kinda sexist and really goes against LGBT movement. Statements like this play into gender stereotypes and those stereotypes based on gender are one of the pillars of homophobia. It also contributes to biphobia both within the LGBT community and outside of it. It's also a bit misogynistic to say that a woman needing to be controlled by a man. And, she and Mark were never in a relationship, they were fuck buddies at most. That isn't the same as a committed relationship.
Calie's bisexual so I wouldn't have a problem with her being with a man, but that would probably make things worse between her and Arizona.
But she doesn't really give Arizona respect, she treats her okay but with Callie its always her way or the highway, especially when it comes to Arizona. Callie is a decent person but she's not great in a relationship and put her own needs above those of other which is common but Arizona always her to do that. If anything Callie needs someone who is a bit tougher and less considerate when it comes to have a successful relationship with proper communication. Arizona is wrong for her, that's not even taking into account the cheating. Arizona is endlessly passive aggressive and just goes along with what Callie wants despite not being happy. That she finally snapped isn't all the surprising except to Callie. I don't see love between Callie and Arizona - only commitment and obligation.
I would say that each of them has a history of hurtful or disrespectful with regard to the other. Since it's her thread and out of fairness to Arizona, Callie's should be dealt with here and I'll post my Arizona criticism in her own thread. It's too long to put here and it is OT.
1. Mark: Callie was so clueless about Mark being intrusive and she was definitely insensitive about Arizona not liking him. Callie chalked it up to her not giving Mark a chance, but she didn't consider the fact that he acted like he didn't respect their relationship (I think he did, but it sounds like he was codependent both with Derek when they were BFFs and Callie. He had no sense of boundaries at all.), didn't respect their privacy (I was willing to give it a pass because everyone on Grey's inappropriately enters rooms, doesn't knock, etc., but it got to be ridiculous), and Callie wasn't sensitive to Arizona's feelings during the pregnancy or about it. I hated the way she acted, especially when she asked Mark to rub her feet, expected Arizona to be all excited by Mark's not acting like a petulant child, and never stopped Mark from treating their relationship as if he were part of it. Arizona and Mark eventually became friends and Callie finally pulled her head out of her ass, but still.
2. Sofia: Callie gave Arizona an out, but she also didn't give Arizona a chance to even process her feelings (like any good lesbian ;) )or talk to her about why she was so mad. Callie was like "either you decide you want to be with me now in spite of me doing the one thing you feared by sleeping with Mark or considering how that might make you scared because his role as bio-dad ties us to him for life or I'm not taking you back." Even though they were broken up at the time because Arizona cruelly dumped her in the airport, never called her, never responded to Callie's attempts to communicate with her, it still had to hurt like hell. I'm a lesbian and I've never dated a bisexual woman whose BFF was also a fuck buddy, but I would be devastated if what happened to Arizona happened to me.
3. Callie is pushy, impulsive, and can be thoughtless. She was way pushy during the bankruptcy thing and the hospital buyout. She got on my nerves and it was horrible to see her talk about throwing away their financial future, pledging Arizona's money to buy the hospital without consulting her, and then crazily telling Arizona that she doesn't want to spend her life worrying about disasters or calamity in their lives. Maybe Callie has some residual memory loss from that car crash because "that day" has come more than once in their lives. Also, Arizona is Callie's wife. Before Callie went off half-cocked to spin the hospital buyout deal, she should have spoken to Arizona first. Arizona was right to point out that they have a child and that they should discuss family finances first. She put Arizona in a horrible position by just spitballing ideas with Derek. Arizona had to be the "bad guy" there who would sink everyone's dream of owning the hospital because she didn't want to cough up her money and objected to Callie giving away Sofia's money. I also thinks that this ties into Callie's being intrusive during the buyout thing. She acted as if Sofia, by virtue of being Mark's heir, gave her a seat at the table.
4. Having kids was a big issue between them. Arizona avoided that conversation, as did Callie, and when they talked about it, it didn't go well. However, Callie bent at the end. After the shooting, Callie told Arizona that she didn't want kids if it meant not being together. It was Arizona who said that they would have "all kinds of kids" and that she couldn't live without Callie and their "ten kids."
One thing I can say about Callie, however, is that she's never been malicious. She means well, not that that absolves her of bad behavior. It doesn't make it any less hurtful or toxic.
I think Arizona hates Callie. Callie had a plan to save Arizona's leg and Arizona knows she had that plan because her surgery was the next day. It wasn't Callie's fault that Arizona's body couldn't last until the surgery. Arizona seems to conveniently forget that. I'm not insensitive to the fact that what happened to her was devastating. All of the surviving victims have everything back and are "whole." It is easy to forget about Mark and Lexie dying because Arizona is in a world of hurt and it does delegitimize her pain by saying, "Well, at least you're not dead." That is irrelevant and to ask someone in her situation to "feel lucky" is Category 5 stupidity. There is probably part of her that wishes she had died in that crash because she wouldn't be living with the pain she is living with now.
I don't think Arizona wants Sofia or Callie anymore. I didn't see any apologizing or remorse even before Callie invoked the plane. She revenge fucked a random. She had every chance to extricate herself from that situation, but she locked the on-call room door to sleep with her. In my eyes, she locked her family out for good. I could be totally wrong, but I just don't see any indication that Arizona would care if she never saw Callie or Sofia again. She dumped her family. To Sofia, Arizona is "mama" and she loves her. Does Arizona even care about Sofia? Callie thought of them both during the storm, but Arizona didn't express any concern. That's where they are different: Callie loves hard, she's devoted, she loves people, she's loyal, she's warm, and she cares. Arizona? Nope.