He said that he didn't want their brother-relationship in their hunting relationship, and based on what Dean was doing - like lying about the video tape - Sam had a reason.
I guess my question is how can this be achieved. Aeryn may have hit upon the answer:
He doesn`t have to hate Sam right back in return but simply be aloof.
Meaning that Dean stops giving Sam any special regard or concern during hunts, and he just states the facts, Ma'am! Also, not responding to any possible attempts Sam might make at humor, concern or bonding when the tension becomes to much. If Sam wants just business, that's what Dean should give him.
The tricky part is that I don't think Dean can turn it on and off - so Sam may end up with aloof Dean all the time. I'm not sure if that's what Sam wants or not.
While much of what Dean said had some truth to it, that doesn't mean it likely hurt any less. And then Dean just left him, potentially for good if his plan to say yes to Michael had worked and with those potentially being his last words to Sam.
And therein lies the difference - Dean spoke the truth and about how he honestly felt, but he didn't say that Sam had always been that way. Sam's speech implied that Dean was a failure at everything throughout his life.
Also, Dean wasn't running off to say "yes" to spite Sam, he was doing it because he honestly saw no other way. Would it suck if those were his last words to Sam? Possibly. But we may see a similar scenario this season with Sam's potentially last words to Dean being just as hurtful.
As an aside, when Sam said "not you..of all people", I was glad to hear him feel that pain so that he could understand what he'd done to Dean the previous season.
I hope, like you, that the resolution will be well done and soften the unnecessary blows Sam inflicted, but I'm not too confident on that. It may just end up being "Dean, you're an idiot who didn't understand what I meant, and now you've confirmed my judgement by screwing up again" instead.
A lot of what you wrote makes sense, BTW. Just a couple differences of opinion is all. :)
Dean also had a reason for throwing the amulet away, since from Sam's own heavenly memories, Sam's best moments were when he left his family and his brother
Agreed, the amulet became meaningless all around - God didn't want to be bothered with the petty problem he'd helped set up in the first place, and Sam appeared to have been happier away from Dean and the deep love Dean thought was there seemed to be a lie. I can't blame Dean for that reaction and I have no interest in seeing the amulet again.
Edited by Austinthecat, Feb 25, 2014 @ 3:14 PM.