Whether the Derek's cruelty was intentional or not doesn't make it any less hurtful. I don't think anyone would question that Derek was dealt a heavy blow by Addison's thoughtless and excessively CRUEL actions. However, that doesn't excuse his actions. Derek and Meredith's one night stand was just that. Neither had any expectations of the other; Derek didn't tell Meredith about being married and she didn't ask. But when that ONS moved to something else Derek had an obligation to be truthful. I'm sure it couldn't have been easy. How do you tell someone you are starting to care about that you haven't been totally honest with them and that you are actually married? I'm sure he was afraid of losing her, but that's not an excuse not to tell her. He owed it to her. What Addison did to Derek was horrendous, but that doesn't excuse his actions to Meredith IMO.

I agree, that it was cruel that Derek wasn't honest with Meredith. But I think he was just being a coward, trying to start a new life and pretending to himself that the old life didn't exist. I'm guessing he was secretly hoping he would never have to deal with his wife and that mess of a marriage. It's like that episode in season 1 where a woman has a giant tumor that had been growing for forever. Eventhough deep down she knew she should go see a doctor she closed her eyes and hoped it would simply go away. I think a lot of people do that in a lot of situations in life. Sometimes it's just too hard to face something and I guess McDreamy knew, that if he told Meredith about Addison he would have to deal with her (Addison) one way or the other.

I'm not saying that I don't get WHY he did it, just that that still doesn't make his actions excusable or even forgivable (not yet, anyway :)). It doesn't make him some sadist who preys on innocent victims, but it doesn't make him blameless in the situation either. Whether he wanted to face it or not, he knew what he was doing and knowing the likely consequences of his own actions, he chose to do them anyway. He is finally starting to make some stride in becoming forgiven (at least by me) by finally being honest with himself and those around him as of the last new episode 2.10, but he still has ways to go IMO.

Okay, finally saw this episode! And it was awesome!

I loved Alex's interactions with Joe. The tab part was really funny.

Hate, hate, hate Addison more than ever after this episode. She is so cold-hearted it's not even funny. They really shifted her personality by the end of the season.

The strangest part of this episode is that I actually liked George! The way he covered Mer with the umbrella, was a leaky sponge, found a way to get Joe covered....... he was kind of bumbling still, but it was a cute bumbling.

Was Burke breaking up with Christina or ordering lunch..... I really couldn't tell by his tone and emotions. :)

That is the quote of the day, deaja. You know you have problems when people can't tell if you're ordering a meal or ending a relationship :)

I didn't rewatch this ep last night so I can't be 100 percent certain, but I do believe he broke up with her.

Having just now gotten *slightly* up to speed thanks to Lifetime's airing of the S1 and S2 episodes on Sunday evenings, I have to say that I loved this episode. And damn it if I haven't gotten through ONE Greys Anatomy episode without crying at the end!! Anyway- I loved Bailey's "I am McDreamy" line. Also, when Burke said "I don't have a story, I just wanted to hear yours". I thought for sure at one point he was going to refer to Derek AS McDreamy. I think George's timing is so great, he does that quick, stammery-type comedy like no other. (I mean that in a great way!) He just always seems like he's tripping over his shoelaces or something.

With regard to Burke and Cristina- I think he gave Cristina all the opportunity in the world to either say she wanted to be with him, or that she didn't want him to break up with her- but it's Cristina's way- oftentimes, she just won't speak up. It's her stubbornness I think. But after watching a lot of interaction between the 2 of them, I have realized that through it all, I think Burke is "amused" by her. I see it in the slightest little smile he's got on his face when they are together.

Addison and Meredith- I loved the scene with them and the patient. Where the patient is laying into Meredith "how could you do that", and Addison steps it up and basically (can't remember the exact words) says that Meredith is the one who was scorned. Or something like that. That's how I interpreted it, anyway. I liked when she said she didn't have "the class or the patience" that Meredith had.

I was watching that episode again, I don't realize how Addison turned from that cold hearted bitch to a really sweet person who had her moment of weakness and mistakes and that's it. Derek is indeed McDreamy, he lives somewhere else where he thinks he can shut out the world if he wanted to. The victim is Meredith, but Derek isn't evil either, he was the victim of Addison's betrayal with Mark, and he ended up hurting Meredith who hurt George in return. It's a vicious circle.

After that speech it was really cruel to leave like that, because I suppose it hasn't been long since what Addison did, and it's hard to start a relationship, it's hard to admit what you feel, it's hard to feel vulnerable in front of somebody else, who could just take advantage and hurt you again.