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Toral could use a few months in a gulag taking diplomacy and HR courses, sure. But every single person on this show, up to and including Trumpidiot, could as well.[/quote]

I disagree with this. So far, I think Randal, Marshawn, and Jennifer M. have been pretty diplomatic.
natashapierre

But some people seem to think that they got away with it, because Toral got fired and they didn't. I don't think they got away with it, I believe it's just a matter of time for them.[/quote]

....I agree. I think we need to remember that he can only fire one at a time ... He had already listed some bad stuff about Toral from the previous week....Now he's probably got a list started for some of the others ...
natashapierre

I think Toral took a professional route that wouldn't require her to explain any personal/cultural/religious problems that may arise. If such is the case, I wouldn't expect her to articulate her concerns well when she hasn't given much thought to the matter or how to explain it to people. She came off more so of a bitch when she couldn't diplomatically say "Look wearing this suit is demeaning to me personally, culturally and religiouslly, but one you guys go right ahead and do so." Even I can't think of a diplomatic manner of stating that which is why I think she labelled it a "personal" problem first hoping that the others would just drop it.
[/quote]

I think this is a good point. But I become skeptical of whether she actually had any real concerns when I think of that interview segment where she remarked that Kristi had looked absolutely ridiculous in the costume and that, as usual, her, Toral's, judgment had been absolutely correct ... Unfortunately that makes it seem to me that her claims of cultural or other concerns was really just a sham, since she seems here to be saying to the camera -- as opposed to her teammates and Trump, to whom she was trying to explain away her refusal and get them off her case -- hat the real deal was her unwillingness to look stupid and her feeling that she's above the activity ... As someone else remarked here recently, I'm fine with her being above the activity -- but then she shouldn't have gone on a show where this kind of activity comes up as a matter of course. ...
momo

....I agree. I think we need to remember that he can only fire one at a time ... He had already listed some bad stuff about Toral from the previous week....Now he's probably got a list started for some of the others ... [/quote]

Well, he has already said that he doesn't see Markus lasting very long...

You see, what bothered me about the Toral firing is that as much as he hated Markus, he did not fire him because they did not lose because of him. (He also correctly observed that it was a mistake to not capitalize the i in Italian), yet he knew the girls did not lose because of Toral but he fired her anyway. Maybe he hated her more, or maybe all the lies made him very angry.
Obladi

2. Why give Clay the unanimous exemption. He treated them like crap, voted down ideas that they worked on like a dictator, etc. They did win bit I thought at least one guy would like to see him unprotected next week if they lose.[/quote]

It's the project manager's job to vote down ideas if he thinks the ideas suck. If Elizabeth had done that in her season her team could have won. If someone had listened to Markus about how horrible the car ideas were a few weeks ago, the men team could have won. When they add a bunch of extra details, they bring trouble on themselves. The only idea he shot down was a jingle that sounded like crap. He told them at the outset he would have total control and if they didn't want this to be the case then he wouldn't be PM. They agreed to what he wanted. The team won, easily, with his ideas and leadership, so they gave him an exemption. He should have been nicer to them, but this doesn't seem like the nicest team from the 2 seconds we have seen of their dynamics. Maybe he won't be so hostile later on. If he is then he won't be around for long. I think he did okay w/everyone aside from the few moments we saw, and those scenes were blown up to create suspense. Otherwise the women would have clearly been the losers from the start of the episode.

If he were a dictator, or Hitler, as Joshit called him, he would have been putting them in prison camps or having them shot. Being rude or being bossy is something completely different at least to me. I know that Josh is the type of person who will do anything to get oncamera (anything except be PM or take a risk), but I'm always amazed at anyone who just casually compares people to Hitler. He is one of the most loathsome people I have ever seen on this program. Too bad they can't give a reward where Josh has to go see the Holocaust Museum.
yadayada
natashapierre, I don't want to start a debate on the caste system, I'm a Brahmin Hindu. There have been numerous times my parents have yelled and told me not to embarrass them in public because we are "a Brahmin family with a good name." Unfortunately, a good family name counts for a lot in our culture (as it relates to marriage, business prospects, financial deals etc).

If this was the way Toral was raised, I can understand her comments in her one on one interview where she is glad that she didn't wear the costume cause Kristi looked like an ass. I can understand the comment but I don't condone it.


ETA: Trump has broken his own rules numerous times. He has fired more than one person at a time, see Wes and Maria as an example and the possibility of mass firing coming up in Episode 6 .
momo
I know Trump has broken the rules several times. But this was a case of firing someone because he can't stand her, and the team can't stand her. I still think the firings should have to do with winning or losing the task. And two weeks ago, the PM was fired because he brought Markus to be fired (because they can't stand him and Trump probably doen't either) yet, because he had nothing to do with losing, he fired him.

Now, one very important thing that was never said about Toral, which would have made her firing completely task related: She smiled triumphantly when they lost. Someone must have seen that and should have brought it up. Trump surely would not want someone on his Company that would be happy if they lost a contract for personal reasons.
Peg Amy
Omarosa wasn't fired because she was responsible for the loss of that particular task. In fact, on the task that she was fired for, she was the only one on her team who made a sale. She was fired for having extreme personal problems. IMO, Toral had even greater personal problems than Omarosa, since at the very least, I never believed that Omarosa wanted her team to lose. Plus, Toral lied in the boardroom repeatedly, which Markus did not do. If Toral had not lied, I think Felisha might have been fired.

I could understand if Toral had cultural objections to putting on the Zip costume, but in that case she should not have gone on The Apprentice. Anyone who is vaguely familiar with the show would know that by going on it, you stand a good chance of embarrassing yourself. It is reality TV after all.
holdfast

Too bad they can't give a reward where Josh has to go see the Holocaust Museum.[/quote]

Serious word on that. I could understand maybe describing Clay as a "petty tyrant" but why invoke Godwin's Law on national TV? Doesn't that just represent a massive cheapening of discourse? So if Clay is Hitler for being a pushy boss, what does that make Pol Pot or someone else who's actually committed genocide?

Ayway, Clay pulled it out and got the win for the men - and they seem to be willing to forgive a little control-freakiness in a good cause (ie victory). As the old saw goes, nothing succeeds like success. Clay may have done the whole team, especially future PMs, a favor in that the men just might remember that a more disciplined approach and strong leadership can lead to victory, and so future PMs won't have to be such hardasses in order to get that discipline.
deaja

Felisha would be better for The Swan.
[/quote]

That was extremely unkind. I think Extreme Makeover would do a better job. ;)
fanciulla

I still think the firings should have to do with winning or losing the task.[/quote]
It appears that for this particular task there really wasn't an easy fall guy for the loss. Jen M tried to find one but it really was the team that made the decision about the mascot and not including the logo. No disastrous decisions were made solely by Felisha or anyone else. Despite working fairly well together as a team, the men just did a better job. So without an obvious fall guy, and knowing that somebody has to be fired, other criteria would apply.

It's kind of like a "real" job interview. The job doesn't always go to the most qualified candidate. If that person's personality or work habits do not appear to match company culture, someone else gets the job.


IMO it's difficult to overestimate the feeling of predestination that an Ivy League/UChicago gives you, especially to young people starting out.[/quote]
It really depends on the person's personality and ambitions. The people in my ivied dormitory who felt their career path was laid out and great success was the destination were in the distinct minority.


I also think Rebecca made a fatal mistake (in terms of stoking the fires of the Coven and perhaps even causing the creation of it) when she said in the BR that "Toral is the only woman who has the intelligence and skill set to make it to the end and go up against the men and have a chance at winning" [/quote]
In the Yahoo video Trump suggests that Rebecca was "seduced" by Toral's resume. Good call.
RainbowRat

You see, what bothered me about the Toral firing is that as much as he hated Markus, he did not fire him because they did not lose because of him. (He also correctly observed that it was a mistake to not capitalize the i in Italian), yet he knew the girls did not lose because of Toral but he fired her anyway. Maybe he hated her more, or maybe all the lies made him very angry.[/quote]

Besides the team having no clear person "at fault" for the loss, Toral had been given one more chance (not by Trump, but by Rebecca) to prove that she was worth keeping on, and she blew it. Out her ass. On purpose and with pride. Trump has been known to keep socially unschooled whack jobs on for a while (Sam in s1, Chris in s3) until they prove themselves completely unworthy and, more importantly, uninteresting. Toral had proved she wasn't going to change or reveal any new facets about herself, so out she went.

Trump has also previously kept on people who were clearly at fault for the loss, but he felt they had potential and he wanted to give them another chance to prove themselves. Nick in season 1, and hey, Rebecca in 4-3.

To back this up with a real world example, my entire team got to participate in interviewing people for contract positions (in IT, if you care). Three of the four were qualified to do the job, and we all figured that out within about 5 minutes of them walking in the door, which led to awkward embarrassing silences because we had a half an hour to fill and we already knew what we needed to know. The fourth turned out to not be qualified, but we couldn't know for sure until we had asked him a ton of questions. But once we knew, we knew.
unreal
First of all, Toral's overall Apprentice strategy was "let everyone else self-implode". She said that twice. The core tenant of that strategy is "never stick your neck out". Never take a risk, fly under the radar, be good enough not to get fired but no more.

The problem was I think she should have abandoned that strategy as soon as she became a target. As soon as The Donald said "I'm expecting big things from you", and she promised to "step up" next time, she should have switched to a "try 100%" strategy. But the next day she adopted a "I don't want to be project manager" tack again, thinking she won't get fired.

Secondly, I don't think Toral ever said "religion" in the episode. Her excuse was both dignity and "spiritual". I think she was looking for a word and spiritual was the closest she could come. Maybe she meant personal. Deeply personal.

Basically, she didn't want to do it because it was beneath her. It's like being asked to make a fool of yourself on national TV. Partly she didn't want to do it because she immediately understood the motive of the others asking her - it was a setup. But also because she thinks of herself as some high-class business executive who brokers multi-million dollar deals all day.

I think as soon as the girls asked her to be PM, and she declined, she was done. Maybe it was a setup - having them ask her, because the PM is a high-risk position. The losing PM often gets fired. But when she declined, she gave every single one of them an excuse to give to Donald to fire her.

Donald: "This was a lousy idea."
Blondie: "Yeah, but Toral was asked to be PM and said no thanks!"
Donald: "Well, in that case, Toral, you're fired."

I mean, in this game of chess, the only chance she had of survival was a team win. She would be gone after any loss by the women.
sleazydinosaur
Toral didn't pull the religion card out of her butt until Trump took her by surprise when he pointed out he had worn a chicken costume on tv. Until then, she was still claiming that a business person wouldn't do that, then all of a sudden, it was about religion, and she conveniently didn't want to get into specifics about why it was against her religion.

Considering that she's shown herself to be a serial liar, I don't see why I should believe her about that.
Pundit

It appears that for this particular task there really wasn't an easy fall guy for the loss. Jen M tried to find one but it really was the team that made the decision about the mascot and not including the logo. [/quote]
IMO, Jen M. knew where the blame should be levied and in that conversation was tipping that it was the PM at fault.
Dispatcherbert

Basically, [Toral] didn't want to do it because it was beneath her. It's like being asked to make a fool of yourself on national TV.[/quote]

But she's on a reality TV show!! You just can't make a bigger fool out of yourself than that.
Batrochides
Just to comment on a post back on page 16:

I can't take credit for the CovenLite designation, as I'd seen it used during the discussions for the previous task. However, I deliberately chose it in preference to Coven II, as this alternative title would tend to put the current group on a level with the Apex Coven (or, Covens, as there were two distinctive cliques).

The Apex Coven contained a collection of world-class pieces of work...Jen Crisafulli, Lil' Stacy, Maria McBlinky, Ivana Takemypantsoff, to name a few...and while the four blondes of Capital Edge are largely clueless and annoying, they seem to me to be more like a group of inconsequential cheerleaders compared to the original Coven.

If CovenLite's members had the personality of Melissa and Toral, I would have been much more likely to rate them on a par with Apex.

On CovenLite, I'd rate Alla as the most boardroom savvy, and JenM as at least hard working and with a modicum of sense. Felisha and Kristi have already proven their utter ineffectiveness as leaders and would have been fired had not more loathsome candidates been available for the sacrifice.
natashapierre

You see, what bothered me about the Toral firing is that as much as he hated Markus, he did not fire him because they did not lose because of him. (He also correctly observed that it was a mistake to not capitalize the i in Italian), yet he knew the girls did not lose because of Toral but he fired her anyway. Maybe he hated her more, or maybe all the lies made him very angry. [/quote]

I doubt that Trump likes being lied to by underlings. ... And, in this case, the lies didn't show off her intelligence, either -- she couldn't even keep track of them, and they were so blatant that she had at least five other people in the room who could loudly swear that they were lies ... That, plus the fact that he had already heard of Toral problems last week.... When Markus was brought in, it was much earlier in the game and nobody, including Markus, had developed that much of a record yet.
natashapierre

I don't want to start a debate on the caste system, I'm a Brahmin Hindu. There have been numerous times my parents have yelled and told me not to embarrass them in public because we are "a Brahmin family with a good name." Unfortunately, a good family name counts for a lot in our culture (as it relates to marriage, business prospects, financial deals etc).[/quote]

... I know you're right about the culture (and it's not just Brahmin Hindus either, I guess. There certainly are cultural and *family* traditions like this for a lot of people), and I can see that that approach gets engrained in people. ... Nevertheless, in Toral's particular case, it bothers me that she threw out a whole panoply of reasons -- personal -- cultural -- spiritual -- "it's too degrading" and "Kristi looked like a fool" -- but never stuck to one or explained one to anybody ... That just makes me think that, even though she likely has the tradition you point to in her bones, she is likely to throw that overboard, too, if she feels like it. ...

I just don't trust her personally, based on the things she's said on the show, so, while I acknowledge that she probably does have that cultural inheritance, I doubt that she would care a fig about it if it didn't serve her immediate purposes! ...

For one thing, I would think that it would have been *quite* dignified for her to take on the PM position, but she shifted out of doing it.... When she first said that she might do it, she did, in fact, mention that "marketing" was something she had experience and training in -- unlike what she said later! ... Had she done that, there would have been no question of her ending up in the degrading costume ... For another, if I were her family, I would think that her new Web site and her application for a trademark on her name with a whole list of her potential "products" being mostly in the "entertainment" category was every bit as degrading as showing up in that dumb suit ...

Wow, I really don't like the girl. ... So I think she's using her cultural traditions as an excuse! ... I hope that isn't true, really, but she hasn't given me much cause to doubt it.
stopeslite

But she's on a reality TV show!! You just can't make a bigger fool out of yourself than that.[/quote]

WORD, dispatcherbert. That's what got under my skin the entire time. Hello, have you ever watched this show before, Toral???? I'd say well over half of the tasks are designed specifically to make the contestants look like idiots. Dog washing in Central Park, wandering around selling candy bars, hawking burgers, come on. If her family were ashamed of her, they would have been a long, long time before now, sometime around the conversation "I'm going to New York to be on The Apprentice".

She was not forced to be on this show. This is not her actual employer making improper demands. This was entirely voluntary, and she knew what she was getting into, and if she had any thoughts that doing certain things would be shameful, she shouldn't have gone on the show.
fposte

Toral is neither required to explain herself [/quote]

I take the point that once somebody has proffered a reason in generally acceptable terms it's inappropriate to badger her. However, I don't think that it's inappropriate for a boss to request an explanation when somebody is requesting to be relieved of a task they've been assigned; it's not just an automatic out to say you have personal or spiritual reasons.

For one thing, it's quite likely to come up again, and employers are going to need to know how to use the employee effectively--can you not attend the presentation because it's at a bar and you have religious beliefs about alcohol, because you have to drive to it after sundown, because you were involved in a legal dispute with the owner? The employer needs to have a chance to make reasonable accommodation.

Particularly in this situation, where Toral had been bailing right and left, I think she did need to explain herself in order to differentiate this bailing from others. Not to Kristi or Alla, but at least to Felisha. And I think that had her personal reason been a sincere and sole motive, she probably would have. (Frankly, I think that if the reason was "It will embarrass my family," the real rest of the sentence will be "and this time that's convenient for me, whereas for the rest of the show I think that's their tough luck.")

No question that this was an inappropriate harpy-fest in reponse to Toral's refusal. But just as Toral's refusal doesn't make the harpy-fest appropriate, the harpy-fest doesn't make Toral's evasion fair.
LoneHaranguer

I doubt that Trump likes being lied to by underlings. ... And, in this case, the lies didn't show off her intelligence, either -- she couldn't even keep track of them, and they were so blatant that she had at least five other people in the room who could loudly swear that they were lies ... That, plus the fact that he had already heard of Toral problems last week.... When Markus was brought in, it was much earlier in the game and nobody, including Markus, had developed that much of a record yet.[/quote]

Number one boardroom rule: Do not show disrespect for Trump. That includes being deceitful. It also includes thumbing your nose at his preferences for firing. Chris pretty much saved Markus by going too far in trying to get him fired instead of Mark. Erin, last season, did something similar pushing for Angie to be axed, and Raj, the season before, practically yelled his refusal to bring back Trump's new #1 choice for firing when that season's Chris mouthed off. Rebecca took a calculated risk, but played it smart by being very respectful and eloquent in making a case to merely delay Toral's execution while still giving him his other top candidate for firing.
CurryMasala
Just logged on. I find it amazing how some people have done research to get to the bottom of Toral and Rebecca. By the way, I looked up the internal Columbia Business School database and there is only one Toral Mehta enrolled in the class of 2002. There is no other information on her being kicked out or completing her MBA.

I am an Indian immigrant, and hail from the same part of the country (Gujarat) as Toral does. I have never heard of customs that prohibit from wearing costumes. Toral is popular for shooting her mouth off time and again during interviews when she has camera time. Why did she not talk about the religious and cultural explanations? I mean, she has been completely open about her thoughts, then why not this particular line of thought? Moreover, she said that she did not wish to embarrass her family and 'employers'. Employers do not come under 'religious and cultural' aspects. I am not supporting the 'blondes'. Had I been in Toral's place where a team of people would insist that I wear a costume, I would be likely to think that some part of racism is involved. I cannot believe that Kristi even called her a bitch! I mean, that is so unacceptable and should be enough to kick her off the show/interview. But at the same time, in a way, Toral brought it upon herself. I have worked on many teams, and it is most frustrating when a member not only does not contribute, but also actually has the nerve to comment negatively on and be happy about a failure for which the rest of the team members have worked so hard. I could never stand such a 'team member' and would look at every opportunity to get her out of my team. Oh but I would not use the same tactics that the Heathers did.

Its like a chicken and egg story. It is unclear as to who started the 'rivalry'. I mean, the Heathers have been mean about every PM, so maybe they keep looking for a scapegoat. But Toral did say in the boardroom that they are incompetent because of her educational 'superiority' and background. That is totally unacceptable. Toral has left no stone unturned in making it clear that she thinks most of the tasks are beneath her. How can she expect to get hired? Especially in corporate America where you get your own coffee, photocopies, and the like. In India, you do have people who do those things, but considering that Toral has been here in the US for so many years, I am surprised she expects to be waited on and looks down on administrative assistants and the like.

Where I used to work in India, we had a much older guy who did the administrative stuff, but since he was much older, we never used his name without an Indian suffix of respect, and even my manager did the same. So I am surprised that there are the likes of Toral. And her attitude has NOTHING to do with the Indian caste system. My impression of Indians is that we are a hard working lot, have humility, and treat people with respect. And all this is despite the caste system and everything. Toral's biggest problem is her attitude, and that has nothing to do with enthnicity, just as the Heathers' attitudes have nothing to do with being Southeners or Americans, unless they are racist. Toral truly deserved to go, and as Marshawn put it across in an excellent manner, Toral is too weak a player to contribute to either the success or failure of a team.

Moreover, being in Bollywood is no big deal. Bollywood churns out the maximum number of movies each year, and so many of them flop. There are many extras that fade away as soon as they come. Maybe Toral wants to enhance her profile to get a role in Bollywood, but she won't succeed because Apprentice plays in India too, and people will definitely see her arrogant self which will inevitably lead to bad publicity.

And I really cannot believe how Toral could have the nerve to insult Trump, being on his own show in his job interview. She literally commented on his poor choice of candidates in the show. It is better for Trump to make one mistake with Toral than so many mistakes with choice of the other candidates.

After getting to know of Rebecca's age, I am impressed with her strength of personality, although I don't think she will be a finalist simply because she also tends to shoot her mouth off like Toral. She did say that only she and Toral were qualified to compete against the men, and she failed as PM. I like Jen M. She is trying hard to fight the 'beauty queen' image and has been contributing on every task. She also has the ability to put personal feelings aside and come up with actual reasons for the loss of a task.

By the way, what does 'Heathers' mean with respect to the 'blondes'?
Miss Alli
I don't think you can expect that if you're in a group that has a task to do, you can just say, "I don't want to do this particular thing for personal reasons," and people are somehow required to accept that at face value. Until the Boardroom, she never articulated any reasons that didn't apply to everyone else equally -- basically, she argued it was embarrassing and it was beneath her. However she phrased it, that's what she was saying. That's why she brought up Carolyn. I don't personally believe it had anything to do with religious beliefs. She just realized that she was being marginalized, and it was because she had acted like a jerk, and she resented being called out for it.

Tough darts. She made her bed, and then she tried to get out of lying in it by claiming her reasons were "cultural," which I actually think is... pretty low. When "personal reasons" means "I don't want to," you deserve every bit of blame you get. She wasn't a team player. She wouldn't suck it up and do something she didn't want to do. She had no respect for any of those women, any more than they had respect for her. Unfortunately, she got more heavy-handed about it than they did, and she pissed off her few remaining allies, and she's gone. Which is good, because I couldn't stand her.
ConanGrammarian
Let me add my 2¢ to the whole Toral and her ethnicity vs. perception of being a lazy snob. Toral went to Wharton and Columbia. She worked at Goldman-Sachs. She lived in New York (Goldman-Sachs and Columbia) and Philadelphia (Penn U. / Wharton). She has had significant exposure to American culture. She chose to come here. She has enough experience in the US now that even if she did have a "caste system" mentality, she should know how to accommodate the cultural differences in her everyday routine by now.

Add to that she APPLIED and AUDITIONED to get on this show! To say any part of it was demeaning(ful?) and beneath her is disingenuous.

No, her actions on the show over the past two episodes were belligerant, arrogant, destructive to her team, and not at all in keeping with someone who wants to be a business success in the US.

She deserved to be fired. As Marshawn put it, when asked by Trump if Toral was really the reason they lost, she didn't participate. She sat out the project and hoped that her not having been a direct cause of the loss was enough to keep her out of harm's way. Sitting out a task so you don't get pinned as a direct cause of the loss is no better than having gone into the Dairy Queen meeting sucking on a McDonald's milkshake.
yadayada
ConanGrammarian:


Sitting out a task so you don't get pinned as a direct cause of the loss is no better than having gone into the Dairy Queen meeting sucking on a McDonald's milkshake.[/quote]

BWAAHH!

The point I was trying to get across in my previous posts is that the overlapping cultural and religious beliefs has a hand in Toral having the beliefs that she does. You can't really pinpoint and say it is religion or it is cultural or it is personal. I can understand how it started off being personal, then turned into cultural etc.

And even if she did apply and audition for the show, she might have thought that she could excuse herself from certain aspects if it went against her belief system and that the she may be able to contribute in other ways. She even went so far as to say this when the Coven were hassaling her to get into the suit.

Finally, even if Toral chose to come to the U.S. and make a home for herself here, she has obviously accomodated with some cultural differences by (allegedly) getting through some WASPY schools and corporations. Is it too much to ask that they make an exception for her the one time she asks?

Let me ask this: If the teams were asked to create a public campaign advertisement against teen pregnancy, wouldn't Kristi have a right to be upset and find it demeaning? Would it be wrong if she asked not to be the spokesperson as she has a personal problem with it? It is easier for us to understand Kristi's feelings because it is something that most people in western society can identify with.

Let me also ask this: If Toral wasn't the horrid person that she is, would we be more likely to give her pass when she said she wouldn't be able to do it cause of personal reasons?
auntiemame
Yes.
CurryMasala
Yadayada, your point is well taken. But to answer your question, had Toral not been such a horrid person and had she put forward objections to wearing the costume, I think she would have gotten more support. She would then be seen as a person who is genuinely interested in the good of the team and contributes to each task, and hence deserves to be excused from wearing the costume. But since she is not a teamplayer and put herself in a position where her team realized that she does not wish to contribute, obviously they used the costume as a way to make her contribute in any way they could. The costume thing was not justified, but Toral did not put herself in a better position of trust - her team did not trust her sincerity because she had shown none in her past performance.

Moreover, Toral said that she did not wish to embarrass her employers and family. Unless her employers were specifically Indian and hence would be against the costume, the only reason for her objection seems to be that she felt that it was beneath her. Had she contribted to prior tasks and had Rebecca not excused her in the boardroom by saying that only she (Rebecca) and Toral were capable of staying in the competition, I believe that Toral would have left the door open for a benefit of doubt when she mentioned cultural reasons.

Yes, Toral may have gotten used to the 'American' way of things, but that was not reflected in her behavior because if I know correctly the average American does not look down on administrative assistants in the corporate world.

What happened in the boardroom by Rebecca was very unfair for the rest of the team. Jen W was no good, but she did take on the bulk of the work, while Toral screwed up and the negative comments on the questionnaire were against technical training. Toral is basically stupid, because she actually said in the boardroom that people screwed up on the technical front, when she herself was the only person who screwed up and deserved to be fired.
Madhoo
Amen, CurryMasala! If Marshawn had some problems with wearing the costume, I think the team would have given her a pass considering she had contributed so far. Toral? She already admitted she has not been giving it her all - she makes a half-assed attempt to be PM and then refuses to wear the costume. What is there to trust?
CurryMasala
Agreed, Madhoo. By the way, where are you from? I mean, where in the US? I hope Jacob does not respond to this post... lol
ConanGrammarian

Is it too much to ask that they make an exception for her the one time she asks?[/quote]

Yes. Because she didn't ask. She demanded...without reciprocity. She gave nothing and expected a "no questions asked" accommodation.

And it wasn't "the one time." I suspect her life is full of moments like this.
MightyThor

She chose to come here.[/quote]

I thought she was born here, as many are.
yadayada
Thank you for your insightful post CurryMasala (damn your name makes me hungry).

However, I would like to ask about this though:


She would then be seen as a person who is genuinely interested in the good of the team and contributes to each task, and hence deserves to be excused from wearing the costume. [/quote] [emphasis mine].

I guess this where you and I differ. To me it does not matter if someone deserves to be excused from an activity because of personal reasons. Once a personal belief requires that you not do something, to me that is the end of the matter epsecially if that belief is based on a complex structure of culture, religion and upbringing that is hard to communicate to others of not the same culture, religion and upbringing.


Moreover, Toral said that she did not wish to embarrass her employers and family. Unless her employers were specifically Indian and hence would be against the costume, the only reason for her objection seems to be that she felt that it was beneath her. [/quote]

I don't think it matters that her employers need be Indian. I know I sometimes I catch myself from doing something at work for fear of the fact that I don't want the action misconstrued as "oh it must be an Indian thing." I am based in Canada, and regardless of how multi-cultural this country is, the profession I am is still mostly dominated by whites and I know I can't do anything that is the least bit embarrassing because I don't want to be looked down upon. Again, I can understand Toral's position on the matter, however, I do wish she was not horrid in conveying that sentiment. It is exactly as Toral said in the first episode of Melissa, "she has a point, but the manner in which she communicated it sucked." (I'm paraphrasing here")

And finally:


if I know correctly the average American does not look down on administrative assistants in the corporate world [/quote]

Unfortunately, most immigrant Indian children (not first and second generation but the one's that moved over either in high school or university years) do look down upon administrative assistants. The reason being that the parents came over for here to provide their children with better opportunities etc, not for their children to be administrative assistants.
deepta1993
I come back to the thread after a week and find a discussion of the Indian caste system and Bollywood and heavens knows what else. As someone who has moved to the US a year ago from India, I think I am qualified enough to say that Toral's reasons were bullshit. There is no religious tenet that tells you not to wear a costume. Several traditional dances including Kathakali have complex makeup and costumes.

I do not know how the caste system came into the thread but I find it personally insulting. It is a similar thing to slavery here in the past and it is a sore point for most Indians who are trying to eliminate a barbaric social custom. I find that most second or third generation American- Indians know extremely little about India and Indian customs. All their knowledge about India is still stuck in the 60's and 70's when their parents left the country.

Anyway, the final word is that Toral was totally unjustified in using her religion as an excuse and she deserved to be fired.
CurryMasala
Yadayada,

I do agree that a person can be excused without questions asked on cultural grounds, no matter what. The question is, what if that person is using it as an excuse to not contribute? I am going by Toral's past performance, and I can completely relate to a team's frustrations when a member does not work but makes excuses all the time and criticizes a lot. I lost a best friend because of a similar attitude, and such people are 'free riders'. My problem was when she said she did not wish to embarrass her employers, and then used that as a religious reason. I am not able to put the two together.

And although parents come here to provide opportunities for their children that may help them be more successful, some also come here for the 'American Dream' and end up doing other tasks that would otherwise be looked down upon in India. However, I do get your point. In India, my parents would be like 'you better study and do something with your life, else no nice guy will marry you, and we will marry you off to some average guy and you will end up with tons of kids to take care of'... lol... So maybe Indian parents with kids here say 'you better be something more than an administrative assistant.'

But honestly, I still don't understand Toral's looking down upon administrative assistants despite her being here for so many years. Even Indians in India don't do that! I mean, I recently graduated with an Ivy-league degree and will soon start working, and while looking for job opportunities I have found that administrative assistants in New York with a few years work experience earn a lot more than what I am being offered currently in my job. So clearly they are successful in their own right, and if Toral, being in Wall Street still looks down upon them, she is clearly delusional which she has successfully demonstrated.

I guess my discussion ends here, and I am looking forward to a new episode where someone else screws up!!!
yadayada
CurryMasala:


I guess my discussion ends here, and I am looking forward to a new episode where someone else screws up!!![/quote]

Heh, me too!
deepta1993

However, I do get your point. In India, my parents would be like 'you better study and do something with your life, else no nice guy will marry you, and we will marry you off to some average guy and you will end up with tons of kids to take care of'... lol... So maybe Indian parents with kids here say 'you better be something more than an administrative assistant.'

But honestly, I still don't understand Toral's looking down upon administrative assistants despite her being here for so many years. Even Indians in India don't do that! [/quote]

What is wrong with you people. This just proves what I said about 2nd generation Indians thinking all Indians are still stuck in the 60's. If Toral had acted like that in India, she would have been fired too just as she deserved to be in the USA.


And Toral looking down at other people has nothing to do with her being Indian. She does that because she is a jerk. Also "Indians in India" don't look down upon anybody. Stop making generalisations. As an "Indian in India" I resent that.
Extraem7
Toral is the way she is because she is Toral. She is not representative of being Indian. I am not going to claim to be an expert on Indian people, but I have of course met and known some Indian people and have never once IRL met one with such a superior attitude. Rather, they take pride in doing well in school and in working hard, but unless I have sincerely missed something in them, I have never before gotten any superiority vibe.

Stereotypes are stereotypes, but each human being is also an individual, not just an "Indian" (or "white" or "black", etc.).

I will admit that I was on Toral's "side", until she mouthed off in the Boardroom, then even I wanted her to go for sounding so ridiculous. Half of what she said didn't even make sense. I particularly wanted Kristi or Felisha to be fired, as one of them actually deserved it more based on the actual task. But Toral was stupid enough to make a fool out of herself in the Boardroom, so she practically asked to be fired. Is she a bitch? Without a doubt. Is she as much of a bitch as many viewers are saying? I highly doubt that. Did she really deserve the psycho-sorority treatment from the blonde clique? No way. But she absolutely deserved to be fired. Now, is she really that smart? Not from what I saw. She's definitely not dumb, but she didn't impress me as being oh so intelligent either.

[ETA]: I've worked as an administrative assistant and was not the least bit offended by Toral's comments, btw.
Madhoo
I think Toral brought Indian culture and religion into the discussion when she thought she could effectively shut the discussion down by claiming religious issues. If she weren't such a slob already, I might have given her ideas a little more credence. As it stands, she looks like she is making excuses than genuinely being conflicted.

CurryMasala, I am in Dallas.
fposte

If the teams were asked to create a public campaign advertisement against teen pregnancy, wouldn't Kristi have a right to be upset and find it demeaning? Would it be wrong if she asked not to be the spokesperson as she has a personal problem with it? [/quote]

Interesting question. I'd think Kristi of all people would welcome it, actually, but I don't know (and I have missed some footage); let's say she was upset. I don't see upset as a right or a not-right, it's just something that happens. I would say that if the team says "Kristi, let's use you as a spokesperson because of your personal history," she can certainly say that that's the very reason she doesn't want to be spokesperson; it's a difficult personal issue for her and she wants to keep it separate from her work. If she still wants to be a hotshot in this job process, she'd be wise to then say exactly what she would do and she proposes to redress the gap left by her refusing of the assignment.

For a closer parallel, I think if Kristi had refused to wear the costume citing "personal reasons" and no expansion of same and no indication of what she would do instead, it would have been the act of a "friggin' goober" as well. That's even without confessionals cackling about other people looking stupid.

Basically, I don't think the Kristi situation you propose is the same situation as Toral's, because it's explicit as to why Kristi has personal reasons, and it's also about the separation of personal issues from work, whereas Toral was trying to bring them in. It also seems a little bit like some folks think the strong possibility that Toral's reasons were totally fictional doesn't matter, and I think it does matter, and that people don't have a right to be taken at their word in a job interview. And in most work situations, it's not just being excused from an activity, it's requiring somebody else to do the work. I don't think there's a right to stick somebody with your work just on your say-so.

I work for a state university, and the state regs on request for reasonable accommodation, on legally required accommodations, are pretty clear, and they include explanations of the cause of the person's limitation. I don't think that people seeking accommodation that's not legally mandated have a right to a lighter burden than that. That doesn't mean a supervisor can't choose to judge an individual situation with greater leniency--my current assistant (who could kick Apprenti ass without breaking a sweat) has earned a flexibility that I'm not legally required to give, while a lackluster or new employee would need to give me a specific explanations. Essentially, the first version is kind of what Rebecca granted Toral last week--she felt that Toral had earned merit that outweighed her performance deficit. This week--no.
Jacob
Stop talking about the boards on the boards, stop generalizing about people, and start talking about the episode. That's the topic, nothing else.
CurryMasala
Deepta1993,
Maybe you should read my previous posts to get a complete hang of what I am trying to say. Nobody here is trying to generalize about Indians; rather I was supporting the claim that we Indians do not look down upon administrative assistants. Anyways, do read my entire post, all of them, before making assumptions on my statements. By the way, I am an Indian immigrant and have lived in India for over 20 years. So I am equally representative of 'Indians in India' as you are.
Sorry Jacob, end of discussion here.
sesstr
Wait, but isn't it possible Toral was speaking about her personal religious/spiritual tenets? Why do we have to assume she was talking about some form or other of organized religion?
Sarahfeena

Wait, but isn't it possible Toral was speaking about her personal religious/spiritual tenets? Why do we have to assume she was talking about some form or other of organized religion? [/quote]

You are onto something here! In her TV Guide interview (a link was posted by someone on the "Toral" thread), she basically said that she has no idea if it's against Hinduism to wear the costume, it's against her PERSONAL spiritual beliefs that humans should have respect for animals and not dress up like them. It still doesn't make sense in light of this task, since Zip wasn't an animal, which proves even more IMHO that she was totally BSing the whole thing.
marketdoctor
Toral said in a TV guide interview that she was talking about personal beliefs (or her personal interpretation of an otherwise-organized belief system.) DT might have assumed (as we did) that when she said "religious reasons" that it was a religious belief that could be found somewhere outside the Toralverse.
Since most people who have religious restrictions against doing something get those from other people, it's a reasonable thing to expect, but it seems like Toral's beliefs come from a place so far within her that she can't explain it using an outside belief system (and it might have as much connection to a known belief system as my religion teacher's understanding of the caste system c. 1978 fits what life in Bombay is actually like, or the difference between how somewhat nutty Toral seemed in this episode vs. how nutty she seemed on her home page, TV Guide Interview, exit interview, etc. It's a good lesson on the dangers of jumping to conclusions, and I apologize for any errors I have made.)
Miss Alli

humans should have respect for animals and not dress up like them[/quote]
HAHAHAHA! I really wish she had said this during the episode, because I would have loved to see it included in Jacob's oh-so-brilliant recap. Because... dude. You shouldn't dress up like a Zip, because it's disrespectful to REAL Zips, which, after all, God made.

This is the issue, to me -- it's not whether cultural/spiritual beliefs do or don't justify flaking on a task. It's that those aren't the reasons she did it in the first place. "Personal reasons" here didn't mean "cultural reasons." It means "I'm too good for that," just like anybody else from any culture who is an obnoxious, self-important snot considers herself too good for anything she doesn't want to do. If I say I don't want to wash dishes because it's against my religion, so I will only fold the napkins into swans, you have the right not just to wonder whether that's a good reason, but also whether I'm completely freaking MAKING IT UP. Which Toral was.

People should have respect for animals and not dress up like them... that is rich as all hell, people. One of the greatest reality-show moron quotes of all time.
Sarahfeena

You shouldn't dress up like a Zip, because it's disrespectful to REAL Zips, which, after all, God made. [/quote]

Hee hee. I mean, really...could she reach any farther to come up with a "spiritual" explanation for all of this? She must have been up all night trying to figure it out..."I know! It's because of my respect for animals! I am SO SMART that I'm sure I am the ONLY ONE who will know that Zip is NOT an animal!"


"Personal reasons" here didn't mean "cultural reasons." It means "I'm too good for that," just like anybody else from any culture who is an obnoxious, self-important snot considers herself too good for anything she doesn't want to do.[/quote] Yup...that's pretty much the whole thing in a nutshell.
LoneHaranguer

Moreover, Toral said that she did not wish to embarrass her employers and family. Unless her employers were specifically Indian and hence would be against the costume, the only reason for her objection seems to be that she felt that it was beneath her. [/quote]

She had already been marginalized. Now the group wanted to take the concept to a whole new level by hiding her in a costume. Sounds like an insult few people would stand for (or should, really).


Toral is basically stupid, because she actually said in the boardroom that people screwed up on the technical front, when she herself was the only person who screwed up and deserved to be fired.[/quote]

Was she really, or was she just the only one highlighted by the producers (knowing her fate and with an eye to what would play well on tv)?
sesstr

She had already been marginalized. Now the group wanted to take the concept to a whole new level by hiding her in a costume. Sounds like an insult few people would stand for (or should, really).[/quote]

I agree, LoneHaranguer. Toral's arrogance was reprehensible, but I don't fault her for not wearing the costume. In fact, I find it quite refreshing to witness someone stand up to a group of bullies. There are far far too many people in this world who do things just because everyone else tells them to do so.
CurryMasala
Yep, Toral was marginalized, and as I mentioned before, had I been in her place, I would have definitely felt that some amount of racism was involved. However, Toral's explanation was not correct either. I am glad she stood up to the bullies, but she has not contributed to any task, which is what I don't like about her.
And yes, I agree that editing plays a big role in manipulating personalities. But nobody is there holding a gun to the head asking the candidates to speak. Kendra chose to not speak unless necessary, and she came across as level-headed (to me). Toral chose to have a lot of camera time and even now she is arrogant. The TV Guide interviewer did not force her to speak; she displayed her arrogance of her own accord. Editing cannot be blamed if a person chooses his/her words and says them to the camera - it shows what the person actually thinks.
Anyway, I still think that Toral is really stupid.
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